hi all why is it people who havnt been threw a m/c give you all sorts advice im sick of it im now on my 2nd m/c and all the advice saying i shouldnt try again i should have time ive got to get over it as 1st m/c was 12wks 2nd was 6wks people keep saying it wasnt a baby at 6wks it was to me so want to try again how soon can i after having natrul m/c sorry for moaning needed to get off chest ive now got to go to work and have all advice there im going insane how can i shut people up please advice vikki

People are insensitive! Both of my m/c were babies, and heaven help anyone who told me otherwise. They dont realise that as soon as you get that BFP - you're having a baby, your mind races and you get planning and preparing. When you miscarry, you've just lost your baby, your hopes and dreams.

As soon as you're body and mind feel ready, get trying again. We started straight away after our 2nd in July and I got my BFP in October. I only had 1 AF in between. Do what you feel's right honey, dont listen to what other people say. You usually find that their comments are completley inappropriate because they have no idea what they are talking about.

I wish you so much luck and plenty of baby dust.

Love

Sraah & Jelly 20+1 wks. xxx

not sure how to stop people giving you advice you don't want, if you figure it out can you tell me please!! As far as I know there's no reason you shouldn't try again straight away, docs usually tell you to wait one cycle but that's just so they can date your pregnancy easier if you fall again straight away, more for their benefit than ours. If you feel ready it's no-one elses business but yours and OH's and although I know it's hard you have to ignore other peoples negative comments. They have no idea how you're feeling or what's right for you and to be honest I don't think you'd be out of order if you told them all to shut up! Sorry I haven't been much help but hope you're doing ok, message anytime if you need to rant.

Lotsa love,
Clare xxx