Hiya All,
Im gutted to have to write this but Friday i started to miscarry a 2nd time, I totally didnt see this coming because I got to 8 weeks feeling absolutely fine, healthy pregnancy symptoms etc & didnt expect this at all. I rang EPU would basically said I should go to my booked scan on tues 4th march has planned & stay at home till then. I rang my gp who saw me the same day & she rang ahead to gynea (sp?) and said she was sending me up to A&E could someone collect me from there, they assured her they would but explained they'd already refused my admittance once that day. I went to A&E and sat & waited almost 5 hours without anyone seeing me or offering pain relief etc till I got mad & demanded to know what was happening. I was then told that gyneacology didnt have a bed for me & I was welcome to wait in A&E till the morning & hope a bed came free. I was livid, I said I couldnt because of my daughter & if that was their idea of 'care' I would sooner go home & die, she made me sign a form & I left! Im going to my scan has booked on tuesday & until then ive just stayed at home in bed taking pain killers. Ive got so many questions about m/c I'd like to ask because my 1st m/c at christmas was 4/5 weeks along & I could cope on paracetamol but this pregnancy is 7/8 weeks along & im wondering if ill need a D&C has my 1st m/c was natural & wasnt even rescanned after the new year because HPT were negative. Has anyone else had a natural m/c at 8 weeks or more? I am absolutely TERRIFIED of having a d&c. Its my worst nightmare come true, I hate hopital with a passion & am scared stiff of the idea of having them take this baby away rather than this baby coming away on its own accord. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for reading this long post.

Love Hellen x

P.S My gp seems to think the reason im m/c is because im too underweight to carry a baby, thats the only reason she can see, that & pure bad luck. Me & my husband have decided to stop trying for a baby, we have a healthy 2 year old daughter & im more than greatful for her, I cant go through this again, its not worth the time away from my daughter & letting her see me in such a mess AGAIN. Sorry for whinging x

Just to let you no I am thinking of you. It is a horrible time. I just found out yesterday that I am having my 3rd m/c and feel pretty low.
But my first m/c was 8 and half weeks and It happened naturally and was painful but could cope with it with cocodamol. My second one was 6 weeks and had a d and c as nothing was happening and didn't want to wait weeks for it to happen. However nether is nice but you have to do what is right for you.
I'm here to if you want to talk.
Vic xxx

so sorry to hear about your experiences, hospitals can be heartless and leave people waiting hours etc. I had 2 natural miscarraiges at 9 and 7 weeks, the 9 week one was definitely worse, i e cramps and passing of solid matter but i too was terrified of d and c and found it therapuetic to do it naturally, it felt like I could greive for my baby for a bit longer and I cleaned and buried the sack once I passed it (sorry if that sounds strange but was helpful for my grief) You have to do what is right for you, the pain was never that bad and you can take painkillers and I found hot pack or hot water bottle helpful while the cramping was going on. I think I also got drunk towards the end which helped although probably not recommended by profs!! take care and thinking of you Rach x

My dearest Hellen

If you need a d/c you will be fine, it leaves you completely cleaned out and takes about twenty minutes then you go home. The chances are you wont but just let them see what they can do. I know what your saying about losing the baby naturally and someone taking it away the doctor took my baby away on xmas day as you know, it is awful but you know what your little girl will get you through it my little girl did she said to me mummy why are you crying you have still got me and that is very true xx Am sending you a big hug now ready ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~-~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ~~~~-~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
thats the best i can do I know you are hurting I hurt for you too you have been so wonderful to me this last month please be strong we are all here supporting you and keeping you safe sxxxxx

Love heartbroken for you Lynne xx

Hi Hellen,

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this again hun, know just how devastating it is and wish there was something I could say to stop you hurting but know there really isn't. Know what you mean about being terrified about D & C as well but being further along this time doesn't mean you will necessarily have to have one. I had my 2nd m/c at 9 weeks and it all happened naturally and really wasn't too bad physically, different story emotionally of course but bleeding wasn't massive and pain was bearable at least. Had my 3rd at 7 weeks and again no D & C although it did take a little longer for everything to come away but think that was just my body reacting to so many shocks in so little time. Hope this eases your worries a little, you know I'm always here if you need anything. I'll be thinking of you, take care sweetheart.

Lotsa love,
Clare xxx

hun, sorry to hear whats happening. you know if you ever want to talk, where i am. take care hun
Lis

I'm really sorry to hear that. I had a m/c at just over 9 weeks it was completley natural. I started bleeding on 30th Dec and was told to bed rest as i couldn't be seen untill 2nd Jan with bank hols etc. In that time i had no pain and slight bleeding, we went for scan at EPU and i was told baby had stopped developing at around 7 weeks. i was offered D&C but i decided to let it carry on naturally as it had already started and i didn't like the sound of surgery- i too have a 2yr old daughter and i just wanted to be with her.
The afternoon after the scan i developed really bad pain and really heavy bleeding- had to change pad every 10 mins for about an hour. After that the pain eased and i carried on as normal (trying to keep things as normal as i could for my daughter) but on the saturday (5th) i had a really servere pain and when i went to the loo the sack etc came out. It was a horible horrible experience but im pleased i didn't have D&C. The bleeding stopped on the Tues after and i was re-scanned on the wed. The whole experience drained me both mentally and phsically.

I'm sorry this is a bit long and detailed but i found the more i read other peoples experiences the more it helped and again im really sorry your going through this.

Take care of yourself

Kelly

Huni i'm so sorry this has happened to you again. I know words cannot help at this moment in time. But we're all here for you whenever you need us.

Big hugs and love
Paula xxxxx

Hun - I've replied on your other post and will email you in a mo xxxxxx

i have emailed you and i have sent message on ttc
love and hugs xxxxxx linzi xxxx

Thank you so much for your replies, they really so mean so so much just now, ill try & keep you all posted, thanx to the ladies who pm'd me. It means so much to know you ladies are there for me & understand. Thanks again

Love H xxx