"M/c confirmed, no more denial "

hiya all
first off thanks so much for your support, you ladies are grand & im lucky to have you all for advice & support!

I had my scan at EPU today 7 they confirmed a 7 weeks baby but no heartbeat, I just cant put into words how its wrecked me. I explained I was terrified of theatre & they have said I can try to let it happen naturally & hope everything comes away without needing d&c.

So, now I know where I stand & I know ive got a world of hurt in front of me, physically & emotionally, Ive lost the right to denial now & its left my head has a shed.

Just to point out to ladies, when I was sobbing in the scan room I managed to blub out 'I shouldnt have got pregnant again so soon' and immediatly they assured me, I quote 'THATS WOULDNT HAVE MADE THE SLIGHTEST DIFFERENCE WHAT SO EVER HELLEN'

So, you ladies who do try again soon after a m/c (I got caught around 14 days later) dont use my episode as an example because the most liable reason im getting for m/c is being so underweight, not because I didnt wait for 3 healthy periods etc. If people chose to wait till is right for them then its all good but I had to point out their words today as ive been blaming myself.

Well, thanks again ladies & im sorry for the long message. Huge kisses

Hellen xxx

about your loss, i can't believe it. i hope that you as ok as you can be at this tim e. excuse me for asking but are u a lot underweight? is there anyway that u can gain weight healthily and if u want to, try again then? sorry if i'm asking too many qs. aaargh it's so crap i feel for u i really do.
big hugs
jo
xxx

I no just how you feel.
It is so hard. You are a good person and all this will get easier with time I promise you.
Blame is just one of the emotions that we go through but m/c is such a taboo subject that no-one really knows why it happens to so many of us.
Take care hun.Talk when you need to and give yourself time to grieve.
Vic xx

Oh god, Hellen, it just breaks my heart reading about whats happening to you, I'm still shocked, I'm thinking of you so much and sending you so much love and support.

You're already being so strong and although its going to be hard I know you'll make it through OK, you've survived it before and you'll do it again.

We're all here when you need us so don't ever feel alone.
Take care babe, lots of love to you, S and D.
N xxxxxxx

you truly are an amazing person for wanting to reassure others when you're going through hell yourself and I'm devastated you have to go through this again when you so don't deserve it. Know there's nothing I can say but just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you and hoping with all my heart that things will happen the way you want, you've been through enough already. You know I'm here if you want to talk, take care of yourself sweetheart.

Love,
Clare xxx