hi all
i was 1o weeks pregnant to the day,when i started bleeding. i was so scared but from loooking on net etc it seemed like alot of people bleed and it can be fine. i had my scan today, a lilltle beby was lying there with no heart beat. i asked to see and almost wish i hadnt as thats ll i eep seeing now

i have a litttle boy who is two, he was 10 weeks prem. i feel so ad cos im all over the place i want to be fine for him but finding it so hard.

i know these things happen for a reason and i want to just get on with it be strong then i think of all the other people i know who are due the same time i was, i cant not see them but i feel like i want to run and hide.

im going in next week for the surgical evacuation, its really upsetting me thinking ive got my dead child lying in my stomach, i just cant seem to cope, and i so want to.

im not bleeding that heavy at min just uncomfortable tummy, a constant reminder. i normally shut myself off with things like this but so hard as ihave my son. ive text every one that knew i was pregnant but i cant face talking to them, i feel such a failure and a fraud and wish to god this hadnt happened i cant stop crying i feel so low, when will it end....

im sorry to ramble but i didnt know what to do just thouht id sit annd write it out see what people had to say

thank you xx

i lost my baby too at 10 weeks, had a scan and there was no heartbeat, i clearly remember seeing my baby on the screen. I miscarried naturally 2 days later.
I promise you, it will get easier. I remember wanting to hide, and i did for week or so. Told my friends to give me space and made sure i opened up to my partner and mum.
You are not a failure, this little life was just not meant to be. There's lots of us on here who know how you feel, so make sure you come on here whenever you need to chat or ask anything, being able to chat to girls who knew exactly what i was going through really helped me through it.
I still have sad days now but am mostly ok and i also understand that it was nothing i did wrong.
Keep in touch, pm me any time, Rach x x x

hi there
well im sooo sorry to hear what your going through.the same happend to me tummy ache then bleeding,and i went for my scan 2 days later my lttle angel there with no heart beat,i was spose go in 2 days later for a d n c,but it all came away the day before.i felt my whole world stop.i had a 8 yr old and i couldnt stop myself crying.it was worse cos i hadthe baby inside me,but once it had come away you just need to sort your self out i felt a million times better,i have just had my first period since and i thought id preperd myself for it but i hadnt i cried and cried,theres nothing noone can say to you you just deal with it in your own way,my heart goes out to you hun and if you need to talk im here
tc linzi xxxx

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through, wish I could tell you there's an easy way to get through this but we're all different and just have to muddle through it any way we can. It's good that you've got your feelings out on here though, it's so hard to talk to people in this situation, you feel like no-one understands and they often don't know what to say anyway, hard to if you've never been through it I guess. The girls on here won't have a magic wand either but at least we have some idea how you're feeling and you won't feel so alone. I know what you mean about feeling like a failure, I could tell you you're not til I'm blue in the face but I know it won't help cos I felt the same. The fact that we did nothing wrong to make this happen just seems to mean nothing, think women are expert at beating ourselves up at the best of times and it seems to be a fairly normal reaction, doesn't make it right though and you will believe that in time even though it won't feel like it now. Dealing with people who are lucky enough to have successful pregnancies is one of the hardest parts of this, know just what you mean about wanting to run and hide. No-one can tell you the best way to deal with seeing them but you have to put yourself first and give yourself time to get stronger, it's totally understandable that you don't want to face them yet. You kind of feel like you're just supposed to bounce back from this, be strong and just get on with things but you have to remember m/c is a loss like any other and you can't just carry on as though nothing has happened. Please don't be too hard on yourself, you will get through this but it does take time and putting pressure on yourself to 'get back to normal' is the worst thing you can do, you have a right to grieve and it's important that you do. We'll be here anytime you need to talk, rant, ask questions, whatever you need. Please don't feel alone, PM me anytime if you need a friendly ear. Take care of yourself, sending you lots of love and massive hugs,

Clare xxx