Hi everyone,

Just wanted to share what has happened (is happening) to me. I found out that i was pregnant the day i missed my period! for one week afer i was sick all day had sore breasts and was so tired! then suddenly the symptoms disappeared just a bit of tenderness to the breasts was left, all my friends told me not to worry and that i was lucky not to have the sickness etc.. but i was worried from this point on. At 7 weeks (last week) i began to notice a pinkiness to the excessive discharge i had already experienced. Concerned i made an appt to see the doctor who was not overly concerned but referred me to the EPAU for a scan 2 days later.

The pinkiness came and went but the night before i was due for the scan the pinkiness turned to bleeding still fairly light, went to A&E who couldnt do anything and told me to wait for my scan in the morning. Went for my scan on monday (2days ago) and was told even though i was supposed to be 8 weeks the scan was showing a pregnancy of 4/5 weeks which could indicate my dates were wrong or an early pregnancy failure.

Unfortunately i knew my datew were accurate and went home in tears and was told to come back in 10 days for a repeat scan. since then i have begun to bleed heavily with clots and the odd cramping pains and even passed what looks like a sac!!!.

I now just want this nightmare to end so we can pick ourselves up and try again.!!!

hi hun
the exact same happend to me
and trust me it will get easier,i no pple tell u that but it does.my babys due date is in 2 wks and its taken me all this time to get my head around it.im thinking of you hun
tc linzi xxxx

I had exectly the same thing. I'm 8 weeks pregnant but the scan showed pregnancy of 6 weeks with no heartbeat. I was asked to see the doctor again after 10 days. I had brownish discharge and eventually had a profuse bleeding. I was in so much pain before a big clot came out. I was advised to take antibiotics since I had a complete abortion. A few days back, I had the same contracting pain again. Another clot came out but this time looked more like a liver (the doctor said it could be the placenta).
My husband and I are still grieving for the loss. But like they always say... Maybe it's not just meant yet. God has better plans and there's always a reason for everything. I may not realize it now, but maybe soon I will.
Don't lose hope. Good things happen to people who waits patiently. I was told by the doctor to start a healthy diet. Load myself with vitamins to prepare not only my uterus but also my body for my next pregnancy. Give yourself time to heal, and then maybe, when things are better, try again. Take care.

Hi hun,
I know how your feeling, at christmas I lost a baby at 4 weeks, this was pretty much like a very very heavy period that lasted 5 days, on the 5th day I passed 1 really big clot & then everything almost instantly stopped! The pains were bearable with paracetamol & the blood had clots in so I was told not to worry & let nature take its course. We started trying again asap & got caught within 2 weeks, this pregnancy I made it to 7 weeks & started to bleed, I had a scan at EPU which confirmed no heartbeat, they sent me home to let nature takes it course but for 3 weeks I barely bled & it was just brown thick discharge, then 1 night all hell broke loose & I was doubled up in agony, my husband ended up ringing an ambulance & I lost the baby in A&E. A week later I was scanned which showed no remains but my GP diagnosed an infection,I had a course of antibiotics & im now having my 1st period (which is painful & quite simular to my 1st m/c) The pain of both m/c have been sooo raw for me that we have stopped trying for a baby, my body has been through to much & weve decided to give it a year or more has were still young (24 & 26) I still struggle to talk about the actual experience without choking the tears back & it hurts when I see the normal baby things (pregnant ladies, baby adverts for nappies etc) but these things will pass. Trying to concieve helps take the edge off the pain but there is light at the end of the tunnel. If you want to start trying again then wait until you & your partner feel ready. I cried at hospital it was my fault the 2nd m/c happened because I didnt wait but they reassured me 110% that getting caught pregnanct made NO DIFFERENCE WHATSOEVER! Some doctors advise 3 periods, some 6 some 1 but I think when things feel ready 4 you thats when you can start putting some serious thought into it. I wish you all the Luck in the world

Hellen xXx

So sorry to hear what you're going through hun.

I had a smiliar experience over xmas/new year aswell. I miscarried at 9 weeks having been spotting/bleeding/crapming on and off since about 6 weeks, and similar to you the scan I had barely showed anything at all and things seemed to stop around the 4/5 week mark. Infact I had to go back 10 days later aswell (twice!) and even that waiting was bad enough.

I was devastated and terried when it happened (happened naturally at home aswell), but a few months on I've started to feel better emotionally,although it will always be painful, and infact I'm now almost 13 weeks pregnant aswell having waited one 'natural' cycle before trying again.

I can't say I'm relaxed or anything yet, after a m/c I don't think you can help but fear it again, but somehow we'll manage and we'll get there, and I hope you find the comfort and support you need from the girls here, they were a real lifeline to me in the dark days and I hope they/we are for you too.

Take care,
Love N x

hi there
im sorry to hear what your going throuh,i went through exactley the same,only my baby was there but showing no heart beat,its been nearly 7 wks now and i still have a bad day but were trying again
tc linzi

to hear what you are going through.

I had a similar experience of going for what should have been my 12 week scan to be told baby had no heart beat and had probably died at around 7 weeks. My body wasn't doing anything to discharge the embryo though so I had to have surgery.

That was back in October and I was absolutely crushed; we had been trying for nearly 2 years - however, I am now 8 weeks pregnant again and terrified of the same thing happening again. I have had 1 scan though at 7 weeks which shows everything is OK up to press.

i guess the point of my messeage is to say that I understand the pain you are feeling and to let you know that you will come out of the other side and go on to be pregnant again.

Take care of yourself and give yourself plenty of time to grieve.

Lisa x

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had 2 miscarriages, one at in August 06 at 8 weeks which was exactly the same as yours. The scan showed a sac of about 4 weeks, I bled heavily for about 2 weeks before my body went back to normal. I was 5 weeks with my second loss last July, I only bled for 3 days and was in much less pain. Emotionally I was a wreck and felt like such a failiure.

Miscarriage is so common, it's just not talked about much. This site was a godsend to me because it halped me realise that all my feelings were normal.

I am now pregnant for the 3rd time with my first baby. I caught in the second month of trying after my last miscarriage. It's been a healthy pregnancy and she is due in June. Stay strong, we are always here if you need anything. Dont be afraid to express whatever you want here - that's what we're here for and we all know just how you feel.

Lots of love and hugs

Sarah & 30+4wk pink bump. xxxxx

I'm dealing with a miscarriage too. I just miscarried this past week. I was almost 8 weeks pregnant. I had been to the doctor a week before and had a scan done which showed the baby with a strong heartbeat. Nearly a week later I experienced light cramping with brown spotting that turned into extremely painful cramping with major blood clots. I passed the baby and the sack that very same night. They usually say you will have a miscarriage before there is a heart beat. But in my case, it just wasn't so. Dealing with this has been very hard. But I am getting by day by day.

Hi girls - just wanted to say that I also thought if they found a heartbeat you are less likely to m/c - and learnt that after having an 8 week scan and all ok to losing baby no 2 at 11 1/2 weeks - that this is not the case.

Sorry that everyone is having a tough time, we are having tests done as had 3 m/c now and ttc again which helps me feel we may get lucky one day.

Take care everyone

Heard my baby's heartbeat at 6 weeks and so far everything was going fine. I started spotting at 13 weeks and 1 day went in for a scan at 13 weeks 3 days and no heartbeat. I choose to wait at home per my doctors advice and let the m/c happen naturally. I have only been bleeding a little on the pad mostly on toilet paper when I wipe, and have had one clot dark about the size of a quarter. It has been 5 and a half days since I found out wondering what to expect and how much blood.

I had the miscarriage. Worst experience of my life. Thankfully I am still healthy.

Hi
I am in exactly the same situation as you, however I did not bleed at all. I went for my scan 2 days ago (makes it 8 weeks!!) and I was told that the heart stopped 2 to 2.5 weeks ago. I have had no bleeding or pains or cramps. the same as you I would like it to be over aswell!! I am very worried about a D&C as I dont want anything invasive.
the best of luck and I am so sorry, and if its any comfort you are not alone..

All the best
Sam