HI EVERYBODY.

LOST OUR BABY ON THURSDAY AT 6 AND HALF WEEKS. THE DOCTORS SAID THAT THEY THOUGHT IT WAS ECTOPIC. IM TOTALLY DEVESTATED AND CANT STOP CRYING. I CANT EXPLAIN HOW I FEEL!

IVE HAD A LOT OF HEALTH PROBLEMS WITH CROHNS DISEASE AND NEEDED A LOT OF SURGERY OVER THE YEARS BECAUSE OF IT! WHEN WE FOUND OUT WE WERE HAVING A BABY WE FINALLY THOUGHT THAT THINGS WERE LOOKING UP FOR US!

I KNOW WE ARENT THE ONLY ONES AND I PROBABY SOUND PATHETIC AND SELFISH FOR GOING ON LIKE THIS IM JUST SO SICK OF EVERYTHING GOING WRONG FOR US. I KEEP THINKING THAT I MUST BE A REALLY EVIL PERSON FOR EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO ME!

SORRY FOR THIS BEING SO LONG AND IT PROBABLY DOESNT EVEN MAKE SENSE SO SORRY

....."when you're going through hell... keep going". It's important to remember that there IS life after miscarriage. You WILL heal, you WILL feel yourself again & you WILL conceive again. I know cos I've been there. That's what I'm hanging onto right now anyway.

Hope that helps
Sending you my very best wishes
Edwina x

Hi Lulu

I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriage especially as you have had such a hard time with your health generally.

Unfortunatley life is really unfair. Please don't think you sound pathetic or selfish. Although my situation is different I understand how it feels to feel like everything is going wrong for you. I was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage on Saturday morning. I have no bleeding or any sign of a miscarriage yet so I'm just waiting for it to take it's course. I feel particularly victimised as this is my 2nd miscarriage in 4 months. All my friends are popping out perfect babies so easily - I feel very envious (which I'm not very proud of) and also completely useless! I have also thought that I must have done something terrible to deserve this. It's so easy to overanalyse these things but believe me, I understand.

Anyway, I just wanted to reply to your post & send you my support. I read a great quote during my 1st miscarriage that gave me some comfort, just thought I'd share it with you...