Finally I plucked up the courage to tell my mum I was pregnant, then it all went wrong. Im 19 and was 14 weeks pregnant (2nd pregnancy). Last Monday I began to notice a pinkish colour discharge (sorry tmi)and my friends and Mum advised me to go to the hospital. I was haveing sligh stomach cramps, more like a dull period pain, there I had bloods taken for my Pregnancy Hormone Levels and given an internal examination. They told me I was having a threatened miscarriage. My womb was closed but there was bleeding : ( However I was advised to go home and see what happens if any worse to go back in. I had a scan booked for the monday tocheck everything was okay.

Then it all happened. I woke up around 3am on the Wednesday morning in absolute agony. I knew it was happening due to my first miscarriage when i was 18. I managed to literally crawl across to my mums room shouting its happening it happening. When I was asleep I lost a lot of blood. I couldnt walk and went and sat on the toilet. Then around 5 clots came out and the pain began to slowly ease. howvere due to my first misscariage I didnt think I had passed the baby, as the first time i continuously bled extremely heavy for 2 days and was on a drip!

Went back to the hospital for them to tell me that my womb was still closed but they did another set of blood tests to see if my pregnancy hormone levels had dropped! if they do then you are told to be miscarrying! When i got my results back the line could have dropped off the bottom of the chart! I broke down (not expection to do that at all) and had to go to the scan on the moday to see if anything was left. I had to stare at a screen of my empty womb

Hiya, Ive had 2 m/c's & understand how you recognise things earlier after your 1st but strangley they're totally different! The pain in my 2nd m/c was blinding & after the initial bleed everything slowed to practically a stop for 4 weeks then all hell broke lose, like you I practically crawled to the loo double up, for a while I thought I was going to hemorrage & die, hubby saw the way I was in & called 999. It was awful, im just glad mum got here in time to watch my daughter because I didnt want her seeing me like that!

When the 1st bleed started I was scanned 4 days later & she found a 7 week baby with no heartbeat, the sonographer broke the news even though I was expecting it I was fighting back tears, then she asked if I wanted to see it on screen, I said no, I knew the image would haunt me for years, once I got cleaned up & ready to leave the room I just broke & fell to pieces, the sonographer kept hugging me & I felt like i'd never be reday to face the room full of pregnant ladies in the wait room thinking 'hurry up with that scanner, I wanna see my baby'

The 2nd m/c has totally put me off TTC & only tonight at a party my husband said 'we ought to try for another one' 1 look told him WE ARE NOT!!!

I think you have to be the one losing the baby to understand how a m/c REALLY feels to a women, no offence to other womens partners on here but im really worrying has to whether my husband has ANY brains lately because I know he has no tact! Or maybe Im just aiming my anger at him lately??

Hey.

Have tried three times now to reply to you and can't think of what to say other than that I'm so sorry to hear about what's happening to you.

I've had 1 m/c and I really feel for you. I don't have much in the way of advice as still learning how to cope myself but just go with any feelings you have, don't apologise for them and lean on those you feel comfortable talking/crying/moaning to - even if it's only the forum here.

Take care of you.
x

I'm so sorry to hear what's happened, had 3 m/c's myself so got some idea what you're going through and know exactly how it feels to have to look at that empty screen. I'm not gonna lie to you, it's devastating and it takes time to get through all the emotions you must be feeling now but it will get a little easier as the days and weeks go on. In the meantime the girls on here are a fantastic support cos we all know what it's like so please don't feel you're alone, we'll be here anytime you need to talk. People who haven't been through this often seem to think you get over it in no time and it can be hard to talk to people around you but the worst thing you can do is bottle your feelings up, m/c is a loss like any other and you will feel grief and sadness and shouldn't be afraid to let it out. I hope your partner is supportive, men often find m/c hard to deal with too but they tend to hide it better than us. I found it really hard to talk to my OH but it helped a lot when we finally did sit down and tell each other how we felt. If there's anything I can do please don't hesitate to message me, will be thinking about you.

Lotsa love and massive hugs,
Clare xxx