I really pleased for you. I have only been on here since saturday after i found out I was having a m/c on Thursday. But I have been following your ordeal. I hope everything goes perfectly this time just relax now and enjoy your beautiful pregnancy. Congratulations hun xxx

Well what i suspected looks like its about to happen. Last week i had first inkling things werent going to go smoothly, had few blood spots. Today right before i went to docs had more blood fresh red one, not a good sign in my book. In a way i felt like at least now i can say its something serious. Doc booked me into EPU earliest day they had was monday so waiting begins. Im not hopeful it sounds bad but why should i be? One ectopic one miscarriage, bleeding never been a good sign in my books no matter how common they say it is. I know a scan wont do anything you cant stop a miscarriage ive just accepted the inevitable. Im upset but i suspected it for so long now. Today ive been getting lower back pain like i had last time, havent felt nauseous like i have been i just know its not right. Its hard im staying with my parents which is NEVER easy when youre an adult, they dont know im pregnant i didnt want anyone to know until i reached 12wks, and im not really that close to them so ill be going through this alone. My husbands working thousands of miles away and all weve done is argue on the phone today because he cant understand why im so negative and why i cant be bright and breezey and believe things will be ok. he said exactly the same crap last time it happened and still lost the baby why the hell would it be different now? Am i being unreasonable or after 2 lost babies shouldnt i maybe start to think that something like this isnt a good sign. Im not wallowing exactly but hes the one person i dont have to put up a front with and all he does is have a go because im not exactly bubbling over with joy! Sorry for rambling i just cant believe its happening again, it gets me down when i wander the streets and see these junkies who smoke take drugs and live like hell have healthy kids and ive lost all of mine. Life is a big freaking ...

Yeah im so thrilled, i didnt know m/c risk dropped after 9 weeks thats great news im trying to relax all looks ok so far ive been told to book to see midwife which i have next tuesday afternoon and have another scan soon as i guess, and they say if symptoms start to vanish then should worry, and ive never felt so sick! not a nice feeling true but its a good thing i guess yesterday was terrible, im not a sicky person so i dont throw up but the nausea is almost worst. And i promise i will do absolutely nothing its a shame my husbands not here because hed be spoiling me rotten right now!

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and support, I went for my scan, was a bit worried but hadnt had any bleeding or pain since drs on thursday, so they did the scan and baby was in womb, so no fear of m/c and they saw my tiny little baby its 8+5 today so further ahead than i thought, it looked really big and saw heartbeat and everything. So now got to make midwife appointment and go back at like 10-12wks. So for now pressures off a little can try and relax, and keep hoping im so close to the 'safe zone' Ive never got this far along in any of my pregnancies. So fingers crossed 3rd time is lucky

So happy for you.

Now, you make sure you rest plenty and take care of yourself - that's an order!!

Lisa
20 + 6

I am soo soo pleased for you, my midwife said that the miscarraige rate drops dramatically once you get a heartbeat and past 9 weeks so will be keeping my fingers crossed for you over the next few weeks, rach xxxx 12+5

"So happy for you "

Wow, things are looking really good for you now!
I've had no more problems now for a week and 5 days, before I had my last scan. I have another scan now tomoro (can't believe how fast the past ten days have gone!) and I'm really nervous now as tho the furthest I've got with a pregnancy is 9 weeks, the baby actually stopped growing at 7 and a half weeks and it took over a week for the bleeding to start, and now I'm at that crucial stage of 7 and a half weeks.
I guess I'll find out in the morning if things are still going smoothly. It is amazing to see that heartbeat, isn ... I hope I get to see that again tomoro and hopefully it's still measuring the right size. It'll be third time lucky for me too.
So hope you can start enjoyin ur pregnancy now and hopefully after tomoro I'll feel the same xx

Aw were not too far apart how cool, i hope it is 3 is the magic number remember so i really hope your little baby is doing fine so does that mean your scans today yaya good luck hope you let us know how youre doing!

Just seen your post..wow what a turn of events!!! Fantastic! Good luck. I went yesterday to see consultant they are sending me as ginea pig for this research.
love Rhian x

I really pleased for you. I have only been on here since saturday after i found out I was having a m/c on Thursday. But I have been following your ordeal. I hope everything goes perfectly this time just relax now and enjoy your beautiful pregnancy. Congratulations hun xxx

Oh hun I'm SO pleased for you!!! xxxx

Again, I saw this at work and had to wait til I got back to post a reply! I can imagine the huge sense of relief you must have had - esp of you went on your own in the end. Were the tears rolling??!

I hope it's smoothed the way a bit with hubby too and you are feeling a complete contrast to last week.

Heartbeat is a very very good sign after all so I hope this is your time! (maybe you had a subchorial haematoma aswell and it's gone now?).

Love N xxx

I was just so excited looking at the screen couldnt tell what i was looking at, but first time i went in i hadnt drank enough water but straight away she said its in the womb and theres heartbeat, then when i couldnt move i was so full of water i saw the teeny little baby aw so cute i cant wait until its grown more! Yeah me and hubby are fine now and he was so happy to hear about the baby growing he nearly went and bought a cot yesterday! i didnt want to tempt fate so i told him not to until im 5 months haha.

Just letting you know that you are in my thaughts..love Rhian

to hear what you're goin through at the moment.
As you already know I've had a few problems with this pregnancy, pink discharge at 4+4 weeks and a bit of blood at 6 weeks. Both times I cried my eyes out and thought "that's it, it's all over again" but then I went for an early scan at 6+2 weeks and everythin was fine and I saw a heartbeat. I'd assumed that they would find nothin there, like with my last pregnancy. I'm 7 weeks now tomoro and have had no further problems but still can't fully relax as I'm really nervous about my next scan in 6 days time incase it's stopped growin, like with my first pregnancy.
I totally understand what you're goin through, as I've had 2 m/c's and at times have thought it was happening to me again.
You may be the type of person that has bleeding whether the baby is ok or not. And if the worst is happenin again then they can do tests now and hopefully help you next time around. I wouldn't give up on things yet.
I think maybe you should confide in your parents even tho you're not that close coz you shouldn't have to go through this alone.
Lots of luck for Monday, hope you get good news xx

I'm so sad to hear what your going through. It all sounds so familiar. Your hubby is so far away, he must feel terrible it must be really hard to try and support you long distance. I hate to think of you alone, write as often as you need to. My hubby got so worried about saying the wrong thing that he would shy away, which felt auful at the time but it was all he knew to do, rightly or wrongly. You must feel so sad..i'm so sorry, Rhian x

I am sorry that you are going through this hun. It is horrible. I wonder if your husband is feeling helpless because he is not there to support you? You know what men are like.
I think that you should speak with your parents. You should not be going through this alone. Do you have any friends that you can speak to??

My friends either live away or have their own issues right now. I just dont know if i can bare telling my parents. With my last m/c i told my mum weeks after it happened and her response was "see i told you it would happen" wasnt too reassuring! I know hes finding it hard and with last one he was very supportive hes just so eternally optimistic even right after m/c he was like well its over forget it move on, but its not that easy if youre the woman. I know its his baby too and hes missing me and now im going through something he even wanted me to call him from the Drs yesterday so he could ask questions! I said um no dear. Thanks for support its good to be able to come here and vent and never feel like have to cover up your feelings.

I also went through hell trying to make my mum understand my need to keep trying, so I'm totally with you on the parent thing. You can't just move on you need time to heal first. Its a physical and emotional thing. Men will always find that one hard to understand. Can u imagine if every woman really took proper time to get over period pains, miscarriages, giving birth and more! The country would come to a standstill. Dont conform to others' expectations of moving on. Demand your right to deal with this however you need to! How are you feeling today?

Having had 2 m/cs I know how you're feeling

If this is an m/c (and I really hope it isn't) you need to insist on some further investigations - they always say they'll do this after 3.

I had loads of tests and they actually did isolate a problem which means (touch wood) that I am now halfway through this pregnancy now that I am being treated.

All the best honey, be thinking of you

Lisa x

Do you mind me asking how your being treated. They can't seem to find a problem with me, so no one is treating me?
thanks Rhian

I havent had any treatment, earliest EPU scan i could get was monday. I think if anything happens here theyll do some tests but havent gotten that far yet. Im just so confused now all me and hubby have done is argue because he wants me to go straight to hospital but im not one for making a fuss even when i have cause to. Im confused right now as he did make a valid point, im so concerned its a m/c but what if its another ectopic? It has the same signs as m/c and is a heck of a lot worse if it progresses im worried now dont know whether to say forget the scan on monday and just go and see whats going on. My last one ruptured at 8+1 and im 8 today. Honestly i hate all this.

I read your posts at work earlier (I can read but not post back at work) so I've been waiting til I got home to get straight on here and say I'm really thinking of you.

I'd be tempted to go to the hospital sooner rather than later, but I know how frustrating it can be if they don't have the facility to scan until EPU opens on Monday (it never ceases to amaze me some places are like that). I'm just thinking there might be something they can do aside from scan (I don't know what) to check your well being and whether it is ectopic?

I know from experience it's a horrible waiting game where M/C is concerned but I don't know very much about ectopic.

I really wouldn't worry about the making a fuss issue, if ever there was a time - this is probably it. It's just such a shame you can't tell anyone as it's heartbreaking to think of you going there alone.

I really hope you are keeping as sane as you can, but I know you must be going out of your mind with worry. Bounce off us all you need to hun, I'm keeping things crossed for you and hope you'll be back on here soon with good news. Lots of love xxxxxxx