I recently lost my baby at 13 weeks (although baby was only 11 wks) and just wanted to say that this forum has been a great help.
I am sad that people don't talk about miscarriage and the amount of cliches I have heard have made me want to scream (Not meant to be, nature's way etc), so to be able to read other people's stories has really helped.
I never considered my pregnancy would end (have a son, aged 2 1/2 got pregnant first time we tried etc) so this has been a massive shock, as we had had a scan, everything was fine, saw heartbeat, then started to bleed two weeks later.
GP said probably nothing to worry about, which resulted in two periods of 24 hours waiting; one to go to EPU and one to go for D&C. Feel the lack of care after D & C was shocking- passed out, lots of clots passed (told totally normal but I thought they got everything out), no painkillers given. I have rung the GP again today as I have quite bad vaginal pain (like I've had a dodgy smear test) but as I am not discharging or running a temp, they said "Go to the GP's in the morning". I am still bleeding (17 days after op- is this normal?)and don't feel that miscarriage is taken seriously enough. I don't think my fertility and future pregnancies are something to take lightly.
I am unsure about trying again-should I wait? Don't feel I want to but am getting conflicting advice about whether to wait for a period of time or just one period or not even that.
I wanted my baby so much, I just want to be pregnant again but want to minimise the risk of it happening again.

Any help or advice really appreciated.

Helenxxxx

Im so sorry to hear your story, its so sad especially so far along. To be honest i dont know whats 'normal' after a d and c but what youre going through doesnt sound it to me. I thought mine was unpleasant as i was abroad and it was done in very and i mean VERY basic back room of a dodgy doctors i was scared to death, i wasnt completely unconcious and could really feel things was very unpleasant. Standing up to go from the surgery table to the car and getting home was the worst time ever i never felt so ill. But still after all of that i got home and within 20 minutes i was feeling fine and up and walking around, the bleeding which had been so bad had virtually stopped, and stopped completely after 5 days. I know a d and c doesnt get it all out, and you were further along, i was just 6 weeks when i lost my baby. Maybe theres a different recovery time in that case but still, I agree, an infection after a d and c can cause problems that affect fertility and its not fair that its dismissed so easily.
As to trying again, thats a purely personal choice, from what i understand theres no medical reason not to try again right away, but they say wait 3 months just so periods can get back to normal and its easier to date. I personally waited a few months just to be sure anything that may be lingering inside was out, and that my womb was well rested after such an unpleasant procedure. But whether wait or no wait you can never be sure i waited and im pregnant now and still had a scare when i bled a few months into the pregnancy, and i worry every day. I think the final outcome is worth the stress if my baby makes it. When you feel ready youll know it and try again. Good luck in the future!