i got back from the appointment 5 minutes ago, they told me i had miscarried and only have 2cmby2cm left which will pass i knew it deep down but i didnt want to believe it, so upset i really wanted it and felt so much for it in just a few weeks.
cant tell my partner for another 3 weeks as he is out of the country still so going thorugh this on my own.
i just want to say a huge thankyou to your supprot and help with this

cerah x

hi there
i am in my 11th week of my first pregnancy and woke yesterday morning to slight but bright red bleeding, this got progressively worse and continued today with now fine pin head like clots and sitll bright red blood i am absolutely terrified and spent the majority of the last 2 days and night cuddling my stomach crying and praying!
i went to the doctor and they didnt offer a scan or anything they suggested im miscarrying but told me to wait it out at home, well as you can imagine it isnt going well and i am anxious to have a scan due to reading some of these posts.
i have an appointment at the doctors as routine on thursday, would this be worth asking for a scan then? please let me know your thoughts and any past experiences, i am all on my own as partner is out of the country and stressing like crazy!
thankyou x

i got back from the appointment 5 minutes ago, they told me i had miscarried and only have 2cmby2cm left which will pass i knew it deep down but i didnt want to believe it, so upset i really wanted it and felt so much for it in just a few weeks.
cant tell my partner for another 3 weeks as he is out of the country still so going thorugh this on my own.
i just want to say a huge thankyou to your supprot and help with this

cerah x

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So sorry to hear this.

Try not to be on your own through this. Do you have a friend or family member who could stay with you? It will be a painful time for you emotionally and you will experience lots of different emotions. Sadness, anger, jealousy and it helps to have someone to lean on.

Physically, I suggest you make sure you have painkillers as passing naturally can hurt.

Thinking of you and we are all here for you if you need to talk. x x x

to hear your sad news - and also that you're now having to deal with all of this on your own, it isn't easy.

No real advice other than to be kind to yourself and lean on people you feel comfortable with - you deserve the support and the girls here will help in any way they can.

Take care.
x

When I was pregnant with both my 2 sons....I bleed all way through my pregnancys and went on to have to my healthy boys.
I was told my one m/w that 30% of women do bleed during pregnancys. Everytime I bleed I had to call m/w who then told me to come to hospital to give me a scan...to see that all was okay.
Hope all goes well for you.x

It's possible that it could just be an infection but I suggest you go to the early pregnancy unit tomorrow at your hospital where you should get a scan, especially as the bleed is red.

Failing that, go to A&E and they should scan you.

I wish you all the best with this. x x x

thank you for all your help
im so greatful, its just hard to know what to do but i will definately take that onboard
thanks again

just to echo what tracy said really, do go to A&E it's apalling that you weren't offered a scan in the first place and if you turn up as an emergency and tell them you have pain and bleeding they will have to scan you. I'm assuming you're in the UK and if that's the case you're probably best off going during the day when the EPU will be open, mine is only open 9am til 12pm so find out the opening hours first to be sure they'll have the facilities available to scan. Know it sounds awful but exaggerate the amount of pain you're in, we shouldn't have to lie but sometimes it's the only way to get them to take you seriously, they can't send you away if there's any danger it might come back on them if they haven't checked you out properly. I know only too well how it feels to not know what's happening and you need to get some answers so don't feel bad, you're entitled to decent care and if you can't get it through your GP what choice do they leave you? Tell A&E you've seen your doc but the pain is worse now and you're scared to leave it any longer, they should send you straight to the EPU and at least then you'll know. Don't give up hope though hun, I know a lot of people who've had fairly major bleeds at about the stage you're at and things have still worked out ok,, no guarantees but it doesn't always mean the worst. Will have everything crossed for you, let us know how you get on.

Lotsa love,
Clare xxx

thankyou so much, i intend on doing that too, i spent the evening with my feet up and barely moved and it has decreased abit and after thinking it started following me stupidly going for a 4 hour walk and helping move furniture (my family dont know yet as i wanted to wait for the 12 week scan) but it is such a help to have so many friendly and helpful people here, beign young and without my partner when it could be a miscarraige isnt easy but i have found alot of support from here, so once again thankyou - fingers crossed it may turn out ok but time will tell i guess...

I really feel for you having to go through this alone, if there's anyone at all you can tell I think I would in your shoes and ask them to come with you to the hospital. Whether it's good news or bad you could really do with someone to lean on and I hate the idea of you going alone. Will be thinking about you today, keep us informed and good luck hun.

Love, Clare xxx

well i went to casualty and was told again to wait it out at home, i find it very hard how they can turn down someone whos crying and i did exagerate too..
i spoke to a midwife and she said that as its reducing with bed rest see how it goes for the next few hours and to call back if any different so i will give her a call later.
thanks again clare for the message, i have told two people but they dont live around here - neither do i - so i cant ask them to travel some 2 hours to be here.
my partner is coming home in 2 weeks so by then hopefully i will know.
thankyou for your support x

really didn't think the hospital would do that hun I'm so sorry. Usually they have to scan you in case it's an ectopic pregnancy which can be very dangerous if left so they won't risk it, I'm disgusted they've told you to wait again. They really haven't left you anywhere to go with it now and my heart goes out to you, the waiting is awful and I don't think anyone should have to go through it. Obviously if the bleeding gets any worse you need to ring the midwife you spoke to at the hospital and I would really hope they'd scan you then, other than that I would keep the appointment with your doc on thursday (or even try to get an earlier one) and make sure they know how much this is worrying and upsetting you, they might still book you in at the EPU if they realise how much extra stress it's putting you under. Have you got your routine scan appointment yet? They normally do one at about 12 weeks anyway but know it differs a bit in different areas, don't see that they can leave you much longer wondering what's happening but wouldn't put anything past the NHS after what you've already been through. Can't tell you how angry I am, know it's not much help but am here anytime if you need to talk, just hope someone does something for you soon cos this really isn't fair. Take care hun, rest plenty and let me know what happens, will be thinking about you.

Lotsa love and big hugs,
Clare xxxx

well i dont know apparently its because im not registered down here, i have a scan booked for 2 weeks time (work with children so have to find a gap somewhere) and doctors appointments scheduled for later this week and next part routine part due to this.
i didnt think they did that either, i was so lost because my friend had a similar problem earlier on in pregnancy and they sent her that day for a scan and they wont to me so who knows!
they said that as it is 'calming down with bed rest and time' it could be ok but theyl call back later if they have an appointment for a scan i can have (our unit is tiny and is fully booked here for the next month!) so i hope something will be done soon, just thinking about trying to stay calm although this is hard and im working with babies at the end of the week again so that wont help but reading up on things - i know thats silly as everyone is different etc. - but i have had a bit of relief thinking about it and reading certain things, like your messages
thankyou so much for your kind words and support it has really helped me
thanks x

finally got an appointment for 8.30 tomorrow mornign to have a scan although this is about an hour away and i have no way to get there so thats another stress! at least i have a scan and hopefully work things out
thankyou for all your support x

not so good that you're gonna have trouble getting there though, hope you manage to work something out. Don't know how you're coping working with kids, especially babies, at the mo, can't be easy when things are so up in the air for you. Let me know if there's anything I can do, even if it's just someone to talk to. Thinking of you hun,

love, Clare xxx

I can't believe you got told to go home at A&E. The NHS is beyond the joke. Scans aren't as expensive as they make out.

It's good to know that your bleeding has eased. That's a good sign. Like I said it could just be an infection or a low lying placenta causing it.

Good luck with tomorrow and do try and take someone with you so you're not alone. x x x

thankyou again everyone for so much support
i agree the nhs really is beyond a joke! at least i get a scan and hopefully see whats happening, the doctor called again to check on my and didnt sound very positive or sympathetic which i admit i wasnt expecting so its add to my worries.
its just waiting seems like forever and ever managed to hopefully have my friend to come with me but i just wish my partner was here
it is hard working again, especially with babies 3m + esp if things dont work out tomorrow it is making me question my future career..
anyway thanks again, il post again tomorrow once back
xx