im so sorry to read your story it mus off been so hard with language barrier etc. my period took about 6 weeks to return after both m/c . after 1st m/c it was light and painless this one tho 1st obe after second m/c has been full off clots and heavy and painful and im still spotting now 2 weeks in. it can tak a while for body to adjust and i know how fustrating it is when you want ttc!!

good luck baby dust to you

xx

Hi,

I just wanted to say I am really sorry to hear about everyone's sad losses. I know how you feel. Its devastating and painful. I started miscarrying my baby whilst I was on holiday in Spain on 20th August, I was 13 weeks and started with some very light spotting. I called the midwife in the UK and she advised me to pop along to the local hospital just to be on the safe side.

I had worried all the 12 previous weeks with every twinge and ache and had been obsessively checking for bleeding as had been told that my age would make the chances of miscarrying much higher. I had been overjoyed to discover I was pregnant and felt God had given me a very special chance as I am 39 and thought I would not be able to have anymore children. When I was on the way to the Hospital I was not overly worried as I had no pain and the bleeding was very light so I had convinced myself that as I had reached and passed the 12 weeks marker all would be fine. I'd had a miscarriage in the past at 6weeks but the bleeding was much heavier and I had pain with it. At the hospital I was kind of excited that I would be having a sneaky peek preview of my baby for the first time on the screen as I had postponed my 12wk scan until I was returning to the UK in 3 days.

Nothing could of prepared me for what happened next. The hospital had NO English speaking staff and I was lead to a sonographers room alone whilst they waved their finger at my partner indicating that he had to wait outside. They started scanning me with the usual scanner but with the screen facing them. I was then waved over to a big chair with stirrups & told to put my feet in them and made to lay back. They then started to do an internal scan. I was frantically searching their faces in the dark for clues as to what they could see & listening out for words I might understand - trying in broken Spanish to find out if my baby was ok. No-one spoke to me or answered me. They switched the machine off and pointed to the waiting room. I sat there with my partner numb waiting for someone to come back to me. After half an hour an American Interpreter took me back in to the consulting room. She explained that they could not see a heartbeat and the baby had died. She advised I go back to my apartment and rest and the bed rest would hopefully delay the eventual loosing of my baby until I was back in the UK. I took her advise and took to my bed where I stayed and sobbed and sobbed. I went from feelings of numbness to feeling sadness disbelief and anger. I flew home 2 days later where I went to the hospital the day I got back. The UK hospital confirmed the baby had died and I performed a D&C the following day.

I am now anxiously waiting for my first period. It's now been over 5 weeks and I really want to know my body is back to normal so that we can start trying again to conceive. I have done 3 PG tests in a desperate hope that I had already fallen pregnant but each one was negative. I've even bought a clear view fertility monitor to help us with detecting the best days to speed things along but cant start using it until I have my period! I am scared time is running out for me - I know it's God's plan and if I am meant to have another child it will happen but right now it's all I can think about. Thank you everyone for sharing your experiences, it's nice to know feel your not alone. Big hugs and much love xxxxx

Hi Angeldust,
First of all i'm so sorry for your and your husbands loss.

Just read your story and out of all the other stories i identified with yours as am i also trying to get pregnant after a miscarriage and i'm 39 years of age. It's not easy - is it? i don't know how my feelings are just yet, i miscarried at 5 wks at the begining of October this year and have been trying to get pregnant since then. After the m/c it has made me appreciate what i do have (two boys one aged 16 and one aged 3!) and it was also a sign that i could after 21/2 years of trying i can conceive at my age!!! hope your period comes soon (never thought i would say that to anyone!!) Good luck and God bless!! xx

Thank you for your reply to mu post - I lost my password and username and after 4 weeks of guessing I have managed to sign in HOORAH!!

I am really sorry to hear you have been through a similar experience, its really horrid isn ... It's just so brutal and so cruel.

How are you getting on with TTC? My period finally showed up after and since then we have been TTC but with every month that is passing I am becoming more and more despondant. I have a scan booked which I had to plead with my doctor to get arranged as I was told I had a cyst on my ovary when they did my d&c which was probably a hormone cyst and should go on its own but as I have been unsucessful in getting pregnant I would like another opinion - I also would like someone to just have a look at whats going on inside - just to see if there is a reason I am not conceiving. We've been trying everything... preseed.... ovulate.... fertileCM..... fertility monitor....BD'ing on the medium and high days and still NOTHING!

I would love to hear how things are going with you... take care Debs xxx

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I lost my baby at 13 weeks too- 12 weeks is the magic benchmark, so felt very cheated.
I am sad you had to go through this abroad, very hard.
I am now pregnant again, after one period, so it is possible. Although it is very early for me at the mo (8 weeks), i am full opf hope. good luck.
Helenxx
Ps My friend at work lost a baby in April and is now 15 weeks with twins, and is 40 next month.xxxx

"Congratulations helen "

Hi Helen

Thank you for your lovely message, Its encouraging to hear that you have been blessed with falling pregnant again so quickly

Its lovely to hear that good things can happen and I love to hear other peoples good news that a healthy pregnancy can follow such pain and desperation and its fantastic that your friend has managed to conceive twins - WOW don't know if I could cope with 2!!

I am keeping EVERYTHING crossed for you both that everything goes well... I am sure it will.
Debs xxx

im so sorry to read your story it mus off been so hard with language barrier etc. my period took about 6 weeks to return after both m/c . after 1st m/c it was light and painless this one tho 1st obe after second m/c has been full off clots and heavy and painful and im still spotting now 2 weeks in. it can tak a while for body to adjust and i know how fustrating it is when you want ttc!!

good luck baby dust to you

xx

Thank you for your sweet message and reassurance that it can take 6 weeks for periods to return. As you say it is frustrating when all you want to do is start to ttc again especially when you can hear a loud ticking noise all the time

I am sorry to hear it happened to you twice, that must be really tough.

I finally got my period a few days ago - its not quite right and am waiting for it to get heavier but am relieved something is happening and I can get back on the road to normality. I hope you manage to get yourself fit and well again soon too.

Lots of luck to you too..... and sending some baby dust right back to you!!
Debs xx

I can imagine how you are feeliing. I am 41 and am still going through what is my fourth miscarriage in a year, Unfortunately or fortunately we never get beyond the 7 week mark.

It can take a while for your body to return to normal and it is incredibly fustrating waiting fo it to happen when all you want to do is get on with trying again.

My thoughts are with you and I hope your period turns up soon.

Nicki x

Hey Nicki

How are you? Thank you for my PM - my heart is there with you, I cant begin to imagine just how you are feeling going through loosing your baby, hopes and dreams so many times. I admire your strength so much and as you say your time will come and when it does we will all be rejoicing right there with you

Take care and keep in touch - I have everything crossed xxx