thanks for your reply,m its good to know that im not the only one, no one else i know has been through this so they seem to think that....its been a month get over it, today is a bad day, im feeling very jealous of a work mate who got pregnant by accident and is continueously complaining that its to expensive, its so hot i hate being fat ECT and i want to just say to her count your self lucky.
gonna go have a glass or four of wine now
thanks again

hi
i recently had a miscarriage(one month ago) and cant seem to get it out of my head, i found out on the 2nd of july i was pregnat then found out on the 3rd id lost it, we hadn't been activley tring but we weren't using any conception as there is history of fertility trouble in my family.
to be honest with you if anyone had asked my when i wanted children the answer had always been " not yet" but now its all i want, i want the baby i lost even though i only knew of it for a day and i just dont think its fair i had to lose it. ive been through the worst of the grieving and now i just feel impatient to get pregnat again.
People dont seem to understand that just because it happened a month ago it doesnt mean im over it and now i feel as if people just want me to forget about it, but im not ready.
does anyone have advise on how long it takes to get af and any tips on getting pregnant

I have a child that is 7yrs old, and a was not ready the second time a have gotten pregnant again and I was on the pill when I did. Beacause I was scared and was 15yrs old when I had my first child. Now I'm 23yrs old and I was just pregnant for the third time on July 22,2007. I had a miscarriage on the 26 of July. And I cried for days I wanted this child very badly. But i'm trying again I will never forget about my miscarriage, and I will always be scared to get pregnant wondering if it will happen again. My husband wants to leave me now because He believes that I can never concieve for him. He has no children and really wants one now. The doctor says wait for my next period, but I refuse too! I'm trying every sexual position and doing it every other day to try and get pregnant again. I even put my legs up on a pillow for an hour after sex. Try and do it regulary and check your obulating chart. Good Luck

I lost my 2nd baby just over 3 weeks ago, I am determined to catch again soon while baring in mind that the more emphasis you put on it, the harder it appears to be. I was hoping I may have caught straight away, I ovulated a week after the micarriage but my very, very regular body has returned to it's very, very regular cycle and I came on today exactly 14 days after. I know isnt a bad thing, at least I know where I am but I'm really impatient too. The way I'm looking at it is, if my man and I do hit the jackpot this month, today will be the first day of my pregnancy.

I guess what I'm saying is, RELAX (it's bloody hard) look forward, enjoy every moment, because it's sure as hell going to be worth it when it happens for us, and - IT WILL!!

Wishing you loads of luck.

Sarah. xx

thanks for the reply.
im trying to stay calm but it doesn't help that im seeing signs that prob aren't there like the fact my skin has broken out i feel sick tired and dizzy. i also had cramps for about an hour yesterday but gone now. think im going baby mad. did a pregnancy test on saturgay 28/07/07 and it was negitive but theres a part of me saying that if i leave it a week it will say positive, how can i get this out of my head and just be a normal person agian

you really aren't going baby mad your just feelin the need to try and replace what you have lost, believe me i know. i had a missed miscarriage last november and i think for about the first four or five months i kept taking pregnancy tests cos i thought i was pregnant again, like you was getting classic pregnancy symptoms, feelin sick, tired all the time needing the loo every five mins but every time the test was negative and yes it hurt like hell cos you do get your hopes up it's only natural. the daft part about it was that me and my husband weren't even trying for a baby again for the first month after my miscarriage but i still did the tests!
i don't think you will get the ideas out of your head not for a while yet your'e still going through a grieving process. even after 8 months i still have my bad days.
just look after yourself and do plenty of talking even if it's to a teddy bear just get whatever you need to off your chest.
take care love laura

Unfortunatley this is normal for us, you're no different to any of us, every month it's the same. We do our best, we wait very (im)patiently for a result, some of us get it, some of us dont. Some of us carry full term, others end up talking in this section of the website trying to get our heads around what has happened, why, and more so why to us.

It isnt easy, it's a shockingly horrible time, you're not alone though and no one here will think your anything other than a perfectly normal, desperate mum wannabe like the rest of us. I seem to say this all the time to people, but dont be hard on yourself, what you're feeling is normal hope it goes your way honey.

Sarah.

thanks for your reply,m its good to know that im not the only one, no one else i know has been through this so they seem to think that....its been a month get over it, today is a bad day, im feeling very jealous of a work mate who got pregnant by accident and is continueously complaining that its to expensive, its so hot i hate being fat ECT and i want to just say to her count your self lucky.
gonna go have a glass or four of wine now
thanks again

i was the same no one i knew had gone through one and after the initial upset etc no one seemed to mention it, especially around my due date which hurt it was like everyone had forgot and there was only me who was bothered. had a fair few jealous days to, i've cried and got angry nearly every time i've found out about some one i know getting pregnant but in a way its got sort of easier. i do tend to try and block it out alot of the time which is stupid.
enjoy your wine take care!!