I was wondering if anyone had had a pregnancy of unknown location? Basically I lost my baby on 7th June and was told it was a miscarriage. Three weeks later when my beta-HCG was still rising they (hospital) decided it was actually ectopic. They did a laparascopy to remove the ectopic, but when they did that they couldn't actually find an ectopic. My b-hcg was still going up, so they confirmed I was pregnant, although the baby would never have been viable (that doesn't make it hurt any less knowing that), and called it a pregnancy of unknown location. I had to have methotrexate afterwards so can't try again for a while now either. That was on 27th June.

It's such a weird lot of feelings. all I want is my baby. I know it was a few weeks ago, but it somehow seems to hurt more now than it did two weeks ago. Does it get better? Everyday I think about how far gone I should have been today. Will it be like this until I reach my expected due date?

Hi
I found out that I was pregnant with my 3rd on the 11th June,the feeling was fantastic for about 2 hours, then I started bleeding and have been ever since 6weeks up to date,have had no treatment as such just scans and blood tests,but I am still a pregnancy of unknown location, my hcg levels are continuing to fall but I am at a point where I don't know how much longer I can go on like this, you know what I mean been reminded everyday for the last 6 weeks that I am losing 'my baby'is heartbreaking,I don't know how people get through a thing like this, my babys due date would have been valentines day so that will be another constant reminder, I feel for you and your loss but you know I have found through going on message boards that you may feel on your own but you never are really, there is always someone going through the same thing or something similar that you can draw some strength from. I know that you posted your message a while ago, but it has helped me and probably many others too!

Jules x

I had a 'pregnancy of unknown location' last year (september 07) and had methotrexate..
I bled for 9 weeks and it took me 2.5 months before all the HCG's were out of my body..
In that time there are very strange things that happen to your body.. and the emotions are terrible..
When it was all over i tried to put it to the back of my mind.. and in time i did resume normal life...I was worried how i would feel on what was the due date but it came and went and i totally forgot about it (had a new job as well)

If you have any questions feel free to PM me...

Nikkixx

so sorry to hear what you've been thru. None of my miscarriages (I've had 3 in the last year) have been like yours but totally understand how much you must be hurting. I think it does get better, it's a grieving process the same as losing any loved one and it takes time. Think you're a bit numb to start with which might be why you feel worse now than you did when it happened. The only advice I have really is to talk about it. The women on this site have pulled me thru, especially since I lost my 3rd which was only 4 weeks ago, it's sometimes easier to talk to people who have some idea how you're feeling. You don't mention your partner in your post but I'm hoping he's supportive and that you have people around you who care. You end up feeling like you're doing everyones heads in after a while but if they love you they'll put up with more than you think!
Hope things start to look brighter for you soon, take care.
Love Clare xxx