Hi, only joined today have read a few threads and thought id post. Im almost 8 weeks and me and partner are spliting up, found out he cheated on me last week.been having probs for a long time. We already have a lil girl whos 11 months. I just don't think i can do it on my own, am in such a state at the moment. Keep thinking im going to have a termination then part of me says but its my baby too. I cant stop crying.

Wow thats a lot to deal with all at once, added to the fact that you have to keep things together for your little girl, whos demands dont change even if mommy is not feeling too good. My heart goes out to you!

So your head is saying terminate, but what about your heart? It IS your baby too, it is a baby, who is innocent of any wrongdoing, even if his or her father is acting the maggot right now, and when your baby is born you are going to love it just like you love your little girl.

As to doing it on your own. What is your family situation like? Are you living close to your parents or siblings? or even your partner's family where you could get support?.

Is there any chance of rescuing your relationship with your partner?. It is in your little girls best interest to live with her mammy and daddy under one roof, not to mention the child you are carrying. Even though right now you are probably sick of the sight of him, you are going to have to come to some kind of agreement with him for visiting rights and maintenance etc for your daughter no matter what happens.

It is really a lot to deal with to be pregnant, caring for a small child and dealing with all that crap from your partner, but I dont think abortion is going to solve your biggest problems somehow.

Try to take care of yourself now. Get some rest and eat properly and try to get a clear head, because hun you are going to need it.

Love
Siobhan

Hey hun

Don't feel pressure in to a decision by anyone. You have to go with what is right for you.

I have sent you a message so please feel free to chat if you need to. xx