Hi every1,was back at the docs 2day still in 2 minds wot im going to do right enough but im booked in 4an abortion.

1st consultation I take it will be a general chat,scan etc so iv heard from a few of my friends the doctor never went in2 much detail.However,it is not until the 19 Feb (2wks 2moro) so I have all this time an a bit more 2 really make my decision.

I am actually thinking about telling my mum as im not sure how I am going to be able 2 keep it from her if I do go ahead with the abortion but the right moment hasnt come yet.There is always some1else around.

2 weeks of thinkin is going to really help me make my final decison. I think it seems like such a long time 2 wait but I am glad of it.

I am now around 7wks gone and dont have many symptoms apart from aching boobs.Just hope morning sickness doesnt kick in.

This is going to be the hardest an most important decision I have had 2 make if any1 has anything to say that could help me make it please dont hold back.

xxx

hey sweetie,
I did write you a reply, it was on the other page though so I'm not sure if you got to read it, so I'm going to repost it here for you and just amend one or two things in line with your latest post..hope there is some sort of help..
wow, bit of a thing, this life we live in hey, don't think any of us could go through it without getting a curve ball thrown at us however I must say that the curve ball you have received is one that will bring blessing and joy into your life beyond anything you could ever have imagined! thing is that there are no real guarantees in this life for us, we simply have to decide to make the best out of any situation we happen to be in.
the reasons you have listedin your previous post for an abortion are your bf and your parents worry over the length of time you have been in a relationship with your bf. trust me, as worried as you feel now, there are people who would love to trade places with you!! even if we imagine the worst and your parents freak out over this-trust me, they will come around the second they see their beautiful little grandchild, and you will have trouble prying your angel out of their arms I know, cause I've been there. my mom and the babys dads mom both freaked out when they found out I was pregnant but they came around real quick and soon were buying baby clothes, and telling the whole town they were going to be grandma's. trust me, speak to your parent's, they might surprise you. you say there is always someone else around, just phone her and say there is something you want to chat to her about...alone, she's your mom, she'll respect that!
you also said your bf isn't dead set against this baby so once again you are way ahead of many other women in this situation,you said he's been great about it,and he has a son, so he's been down this road b4.trust me, when you start getting a tummy, he wont be able to stop rubbing it or talking to it (nor will you).
It may sound like a silly thing to suggest but mabye something to think about would be asking them to let you see your baby on the sonar or to print you a picture. this might help put things in perspective and help you remember what it's all about (although even by 9 weeks you won't be able to see everything all that clearly cause even though your baby will already be pretty well formed, everything will still be quite small, but you will definately be able tomake out the larger features and limbs.)
you said you have been broody, then you will appreciate this baby 100 times more as you have a longing for it. When you hold the little angel that is growing inside of you right now in your arms for the very first time, you will never imagine that these emails or these thoughts ever happend cause you can't imagine for one moment the thought of ever being away from your baby,
all the best to you, louise,
thinking of you
remember that we can all give advice, but you will have to live with the consequences of your decision
xxx

Referring to the previous post, do think about all your reasons.

I found out recently I am pregnant despite being on the pill.

Me and my partner talked about it and he was 99% sure he wanted a termination, I was 80/20 after going through it before.

We went to the first appointment, and when I went home with the papers, they had included a scan picture and I couldn't go through with it. They don't show you the scan when you're there on screen, but I've heard that they have included the pics in the papers before as a way of making sure you are making the right choice. I wrote down a list of feeling of how I would feel a. if I kept it and b. if I was to terminate, and most of the positive stuff was on the A side.

I'm very scared now about the next 6 months but will have to cope with it and I'm more content no I've made the choice (OH is still struggling!)

I kept the termination from my Mum, but she found out after and turns out she had also had a termination, and wish I had told her sooner.

Only you can make YOUR decision and decide what is best for you at this point in your life. xx

I was in a very similar situation to you last year. I too lived at home, have only been with my partner for a year, and am also a full time student. I was unsure what to do for the best so booked to have an abortion.
I eventually told my mum and she was discusted with me and told me my life would ba over if i kept the baby ect, i genuinely didnt have any support. My partner was happy with whatever i decided but as the date of the abortion got closer i just couldnt go through with it. Im now over half way through and am still at uni, and even my mum who was dead against it has come around to thinking that maby it isnt such a bad thing.

All i can say is go with your gut instinct when it comes to the decision. Dont be put off by anything or anyone and stick with what you feel you will be best for you.
Have a word with your mum because even if she is dissopointed she may turn out to be really helpful in helping you make a decision.

Good luck with whatever you choose, and we are all on here to offer advice when needed.

kirst

hi louise, i got a surgical abortion on thurs 18th jan, i was 10 weeks, experiencing sickness, nausea, tired constantly.. it was dreadful. and even harder because i was going through all these symptoms and aborting my baby, everything just went bak to normal. i chose to do this because my bf and i were arguing , he didnt no how to deal with it, he has a son already. my problem was , is that i never really thot about i wanted n felt i jumped inb there too soon. its still so raw right now, been off work for 3 weeks. just think so carefully before u do anything this is ur decision, no1 elses. my baaby was due on aug 28th, im going to have to deal with that every year.. cud u deal with that. gd luck and hope u make the right decision for u x

i was exactly the same - my bf has a son already and said me having one would destroy the relationship with his son and so he just cuoldn't do it! we argued lots - i regret it sooooo much.
I am the same as i feel it all happened so quickly - one day i found out - 10 days later it was gone and all the symptoms went a couple of weeks later.
I wuold have been due about the same time - it's going to hurt so much then.
how you feeling now?

Why are you thinking you want an abortion in the first place?

Are you strong enough to cope with a child of you own, they are tough little ... to bring up and come with all sorts of headaches and worries but at the same time .. if you are strong enough they come with so much love and joy and fill your life with meaning and purpose .. so much so that they sometimes take over completely.

You have not mentioned your partner and what he thinks .. are you still together?

Sorry if I have missed your previous posts.

When I aborted I knew practically instantly what I was going to do .. the rest of the time was all about justifying it to myself (thinking I had to justify to others) and starting the healing process.

What is your heart telling you? .. don't feel any guilty if you have decided to terminate, ths is your life and you have an option but also if you do want the baby then have it, love it and care for it.

What is your heart telling you?