Hi, I had my abortion nearly two weeks ago now, thought it was for the best for everyone, but now I am begining to wonder if it was the right thing to do as the guilt I am feeling is overwhelming. Just can't stop thinking of what I have done. I know people say time is a great healer, but at the moment I just feel so bad. I would be glad of any help or advice on how to get over this.

I know after mine I felt guilty and awful, and even nearly ten years later I still have some regret, but I know I wouldn't have the hild I have now if I hadn't made the decisions I did, and muh as he is being a little monster at the moment, I wouldn't change him... so even if I could go back in time I wouldn't now.

I think it is normal to feel regret and guilt and don't forget your body is probably still adjusting so you'll still be highly emotional from that.

I hope you find some peace about it soon, I don't think a termination is something any woman undertakes lightly, so you're allowed what equates to mourning.

Best wishes
Sam x

I think a lot of it has been the reasons why I had it done and this would proberbly been my last chance of another child.

i have to say no this is not normal the only way this is normal is if its the wrong decision i had an abortion and even tho it sounds awful i woke up feeling a million times better as i knew it was the right thing for me at the time and ive never thought that it wasnt. to be honest some counscelling may help as youll have alot locked inside this is why i suggest pre abortion counscelling as you need to be sure. sorry hun ive not been in your position but im sure it will get easier xxx

What you have to understand is this is normal. If you just remember the reasons why you went ahead in the first place and be strong .. your life is in your control and when you decide to have a baby then you will have time for it and be able to offer it the Love and Happineess it deserves.

Big Hug for you ..

I still cry now on the odd occasion I know it was the right thing for me and do not regret this but I still feel for them in an odd way.

i haD Abortion two years ago,and i too thought i made the wrong decision but time is a great healer.and it is very early days for you. you will find in a few months you will feel very differnt. the pain will slowly fade, you will never forget your loss but life has to go on. take care nickola

hey mich, im in the exact same boat. had a surgical abortion nearly 2 wk ago. at the time i thot it was rite thing to do. bu tsince then ive bn thinkin about it constantly. im so depressed, been off work for a while now and i keep thinkig how big my bump wud be, if id be having a boy or girl, what my baby wud look like etc. its hard but as u say time is a healer but easier sed than done. how long gone wer u? x

I was nearly nine weeks, I thought the sooner it was done the better, but now I think I rushed into it.

i was 10 weeks, feel the exact same as u!! im emotionally drained x

When I had my termination, I also felt fine too and when straight back to work.

It took about a month to hit me, and began crying myself to sleep and wake up crying too. This did go on for a while and went through the same thoughts, what it would look like, boy or girl, when it's birthday would be etc

The way I got through was realising that everything in my life was in my own power, and I had made the decision and there was no turning back time, so the best I could do for the baby I was grieving for was make the most of my life. That was after all, one of the reasons I made the decision, too young, no money etc So it was down to me alone to make my reasons valid.

I can now look back and know that it was the right choice to make and feel I am being truthful in saying that, and I'm stronger as a person.

Don't feel like you shouldn't be feeling low, as it is almost like a grieving afterwards, but always try to think positive too.

Best wishes to you both.

Lucie xx

Thanks to your replies. It helps to talk to others who know what you are going through.My friends have tried to help but as they haven't been throught it they don't know what to say and I don't want to make then feel awkward. I just hope in time I will come to see it was the right decision.