Hi everyone not bn on 4 a week or 2 still trying 2 get head around things.

Had my consultation at hosp on wed there...found out i was 7wks an 3days so im now 8 wks gone.Booked in for abortion this wed where ill take the 1st pill an go bck in 4 the day on friday.Iam 98% sure at the moment that I am doing the right thing but still have a lil doubt in my mind.Fri nyt was awful could not sleep for thingking about it an spent most of the nyt crying.

I am very scared for the whole pill abortion method which is why in a way I am having alot more doubts about my decision.

On the whole I think I am doing the right thing,I am not financially stable,do not have my own house(still wiv parents) and havent been in relationship withe the father very long at all.I still think of the what ifs though,but I suppose either way I am going to question my decision.

Any last min advice would be greatly appreciated xxx

I have replied to your last two posts so unfortunately I don't really have anything new to say, other than the fact that in each of your posts you still sound hesitant. I think you need to really examine your heart as the more I read posts on this site the more I realise that even the women who are 100% convinced that they are doing the right thing still struggle afterwards and most of them express regret. You are in a much better situation than a lot of other women who are facing abortions and I really think you have a fantastic chance of making a real go of life for you and you baby.

You are going to face a real struggle getting over this if you are already questioning yourself before the abortion. please go back to your last posts and read the replies from the other women on there again. there are some that I saw from women who were facing the same worries as you are wrt finances etc and they had such positive outcomes. I know you can aswell!!

facing the unknown is not the bad thing or the chance for failure that we view it to be. It is a chance for adventure. a chance to find within ourselves courage and resourcefulness and drive and strength and determination that we never knew was there. you can meet the challenge that is ahead of you. you can overcome your problems and conquer the obstacles and most of all you can do it while learning about a love that you will never find elsewhere. A love that will fill you to overflowing-and that is what I hope you will experience.

While you will probably land up regretting this abortion if you do go through with it ( I say this because you already sound hesitant and you are not there yet.), you will never land up regretting your beautiful baby. Yes there will be days where you want to pull your hair out, days where you will be driven half to insanity and tested beyond your limits. being a mom is the toughest job there is, no lying about that...but, you will hold them in your arms or walk into their room while they are sleeping and you will be moved to tears at the mere site of them. They will fill you with a joy that this abortion never can give you-regardless of the "positive spin offs" that you think will come.

I trust you will use your heart to make this decision as this is not just a list of pro's and con's, it is a life and death decision that will always be with you.

please don't misunderstand what I have written here, I am honestly not putting you on a guilt trip or make you "choose my choice". I simply want you to realise that while you can try imagine the life you could lead with out this baby or should lead to have a baby (wrt to the future and the things you seem to think that aren't sorted out or fixed so that the situation could be right for having a baby). you can never fully imagine the way your heart will change when you have a beautiful little one. you can try think of the problems but until you are there you will never know the joy and love and the way your perspective shifts and how all you thought was important or mattered or neede really just becomes so miniscule.

Sending you much love and thinking of you as you face this difficult time,
here if you need anything!!
take care,
kerry xx

Hi Louise,

Just know that you can back out of taking that pill right up to the last minute. You sound so unsure. I re-read your first few posts from about 4 weeks ago, and it sounds like you could keep this baby. I know it wont be easy, but at least you will have a clear conscience, and peace of mind. This is worth so much.

You are stronger than you realise, and your baby does not need you to be financially stable to be happy, a baby just needs lots of love from his or her mummy and daddy.

This is such serious stuff. I am not saying this to heap on the guilt, but please be aware that we are talking about a real human person growing inside of you, and it does not bear thinking about where this child will end up if you take those pills.


If you dont take these pills later on today believe me you will not question THAT decision so much (you'll be way too busy!)

Take care dear Louise

Siobhan XXX

I think its only natural to have doubts.
I have had 2 abs and i am not proud of the fact, and with both i never 100% knew what was the best path to take.

Just be sure that this is what you really want. Regret is a horrible emotion.
Also dont let anyone tell you what to do or pursuade you otherwise. At the end of the day its your decision, nobody elses.

I have had the pill method and surgical, and i must say that the surgical is by far the least stressful method (in my opinion.) If you want me to tell you what happens please message me and i will explain as best i can.

Good luck with your descision x