Hideilu
I read your response to Louise26 and was so relieved to hear that you've gone on to make the best of your life after your abortion. I had one recently and am really struggling. As soon as I was pregnant I just panicked and booked myself in. I can't believe I was so stupid and wish I'd seen these forums before I went. There was no counselling at the clinic and I didn't even see a doctor! It just felt like a production line where they were happy to take my money from me. Everything I seem to read is about how it has ruined people's lives. How did you cope? How old were you when you had it done? And what were the circumstances? I'd be really grateful if you could give me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel. My life wasn't perfect before, but I so wish I could have things back as they were.
Your(and any other) support would be much appreciated.

I have PMd you hun x

Hi i am much the same as you - i went to a clinic and it was like a production line.. no-one tried to talk to me or check it was most def the right thing to do.. and part of me - a big part of me - thinks it was totally the wrong thing to do.
My bf has a child with his ex and she makes life tricky if she thinks he even has a gf! even tho i've been around for two years! so it wasn't planned and he went mental and said there was no way we coudl have it etc etc and he'd leave me if i went against what he wanted as it would destroy all of our lives!
so i panicked and went to clinic - i was only 6 weeks and i think that is prob - i ddin't have enough time to think about things...
how old are you? i am 34 and worry what if that was my one chance?! my bf is now terrified the pill won't work again and so every so often backs away into his own little world and won't speak...
I must say i am so much better than two weeks ago.. i had it done end of January.. and thought i was never going to laugh or smile again.. but i am now laughing and smiling - but still find it a bit hard to see pics of friends and their babies.. as i so wanted mine really...
let me know how you are now..
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Hi ... I also went to the clinic at the end of January and, although I'm starting to feel better than I did, I just can't see life ever being the same again. One minute I'm fine, then the next I burst into tears. I can't believe they didn't give me any counselling beforehand / or that I was so stupid not to think it through properly. I paid privately at one of the two well-known clinics and it just feels as if they wanted my money. In terms of my age, I am 39 and now feel that I'm in the position of either getting pregnant quick (and risking post natal depression again), or living with a void in my life forever. I just feel that I'm between a rock and a hard place. My GP told me today "You'll regret the decision for the rest of your life" -Good eh!! Just the support I needed!!!! If you (or anybody else) can give me some hope, it would be much appreciated.
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i don't think life will ever be the same - i do feel better than I did most definitely - but went to a work thing yesterday and there were some really preg women there and i wished i was like them so badly..

But i am laughing and smiling again.. i just wish i could have had my baby.

People tell me i'll regret it - and i know that!

I think the same re the clinic - they want the £600 and although they were lovely - i think they didn't talk to me enough.. my friend said she was sure they wouldn't go ahead after talking to me as i had doubts the night before.. but they never realy asked anything,.. and it all happened so fast.

How you doing now?
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