I have been seeing my bf for about 2 months, but he's my first love from when we were at school so I've known him about 12 years. I was really shocked to find out 2 wks ago I'm pregnant even tho I am in the pill. It's been about 8 weeks since my last period. I already have a 7 year old son who has no contact with his father and my bf has 2 children with his ex. I am booked in the unplanned pregnancy clinic on Hthurs for my 1st consultation for an abortion. It just feels this baby has come along at completely the wrong time as my bf has just found out his ex is also pregnant wiv his child from before we got to together, he stupidly slept wiv her once although they've been split up for a year. I completely trust him that nothing is goin on, but feel I am living a nightmare, I feel like a living Jeremy Kyle show! the ex is planning to keep her child even tho my bf has said he will only support the child not be wiv her. In my heart I feel like it's too soon for us to have a baby but I'm scared I won't be able to go thru wiv the abortion Any advice would be appreciated

This is just my opinion, but hopefully it might be of help to you...
If you have known your bf for 12 years and still have gotten into a relationship with him, the obviously you trust and respect him, which is comething that is very important to share with someone if you are going to bring a child into the world with him.
Although your situation isn't ideal, there are very few people's who's are and for some your not so ideal situation is a big step up from theirs. you have someone you trust and you are a mom and so you know the ropes and it will be so much easier the second time around!
You said that this baby has come along at the wrong time, but the fact of the matter is that this baby has come along at all, and that is what is important, because it is here now, growing and being formed and if you give yourself just a moment, I'm sure you will realise that you are already falling in love with it?!
I really encourage you to read a few other posts here on the site because most of them express major regret and many feel they weren't given any/proper counselling at the clinic/centre that they went to and in fact made the wrong decision out of fear and baing rushed...please don't be writing your own post expressing those same feelings on here, take your time and consider your other options as you will probably realise that a future with this baby in is not quite so frightening
Thinking of you and trust all is going to work out with a wonderful, hapy ending for you and your family!!
take care of yourself x

i just wanted say trust your heart not your head as you can change your mind over and over again its whats in your heart that will stay with you. i got pregnant last september and it was such a shock my oh and his fam didnt want the baby and i didnt want all the hard work that came with it. on the day i was supposed to take the tablets i just couldnt get out of bed so i didnt abort and im now 32 weeks gone with a little monster lol but hes or shes my little monster and ive had pains all day so bubs might be coming early. yay i cant wait

Hi, this is a bit long but i had a termination 5 week's ago and i have regretted it eva since. I am a mum of three and my eldest is 5, youngest 7 month's. I was on the pill like you but kept having all the sign's so i went to buy a test. I told my partner and he said we couldnt afford another one plus he is training to be a train driver so he couldnt give me his all. I went to the doctor and said that we thought we couldnt have another one so he sent me for a scan to descover how far gone i was. I had a massive shock when they said there was two! We went through the we will keep them to we wont, i cried my eye's out to my partner. He said he would stand by me whateva. I thought of the strain of trying to get five ready in the morning and i was so tired we all thought it wasnt fair on my three i had already so i went ahead with the appionment to have a termination. My heart told me dont but my head told me yes for the family i have. It wasnt painful as i was asleep but up to the last moment something didnt feel right. All i'm trying to say is i regret it every day and wish i'd found this site before. It's your choice but make sure you do it for you as you will have to live with it.

from the ex. The father of these children is with you, yet she is still keeping her baby. Id say you are in a better position than her to keep your little one.

The problem sometimes with the counselling at the abortion clinics is that abortion is their business, where they make their bread and butter, so the advice you get there should be taken with caution. Just read the last five or six posts..

I guess you know what it is like to be a mum, and you know how much you love your 7 year old. It will be the same love for your new baby. Sure it is soon, but abortion is not some kind of magic time travelling pill. The baby is in this world now, just leave things be and give him or her a chance.

Thats my advice for what its worth.

Take care, and try to take some time out for yourself.

Siobhan