i have 2 children, im 18, im happy with them, but i know i could not cope with 3, i am late, even though ive been taking my everday pill, im about 5 days late, i know im pregnant...ive been thinking about an abortion, but is it possible to just have a tablet because im so early?
im terrified of needles and ive been crying all day for the thought of having to have a cervix injection, if i had to have one, can i ask for gas and air? (entenox) before the needle? im terrified, can someone help explain what sort of abortion i would have to have this early? and what exactly the pain feels like, and how long it takes etc :/

Hi,

I was in a situation similarto you where I truly felt that I couldn't go through with a pregnancy and that abortion would be the only way out - so I have an idea about how you feel, but i'd just like to offer you a bit of advice from my experience.

Having read your post, you sound very much like how I felt at the time - scared and panicky. However, you're about to make a decision that will affect the rest of your life, so you musn't let that fear and panic get in the way of making the right decision, which is incredibly difficult.

Unfortunately, I think that it's this fear and panic that drives people into getting abortions and when this panic eventually leaves, the reality of what they've done suddenly hits home and causes all the regret and sorrow that you hear about so often.

What I found with the benefit of hindsight, and once all the shock and confusion had gone, was that my feelings went from seeing abortion as the only way out, to thanking God that we never went through with it.

Sometimes, what feels like the right thing to do at the time, or what feels like the only realistic option, such as abortion, isn't right at all - it's just your body's way of dealing with a traumatic experience. It's sort of natural to look for a way out of a difficult situation, to keep life as you know it, and that's what abortion gives you - but it never works that way, life will always be different.

I know that you don't want to hear this right now as you've made your mind up, but there is a tiny life inside of you. It might be very small, but it has all the makings in it to determine whether it's a boy or a girl, if it'll have blue eyes or brown, fair haired or dark, and one day it will be a fully grown person. As you know, the sleepless nights don't last forever, extra financial support is available and as time goes by, things somehow fall into place. I'm not trying to say it'll be easy - I have kids of my own, I know what it's like, but it is worth it.

I don't want to preach about how you may or may not feel, but in hard situations, it's important to look at what's really happening - it can be very easy to purely focus on the decision that you've made and grey out the reality that's going on inside and around you.
I really hope this helps.

God bless

I just recently had an abortion and i have to say it was 1005 the right choice. I had a surgical abortion because i have had the medical before(dont judge me) and it was the most trumatic thing i have ever done in my life.

The surgical was not as scary as you might think. The nurses were so lovely and nice and you get to meet your surgeon and talk about whats going to happen. They will give you a general anaesetic and knock you out completely. I am TERRIFIED of needles and was crying at the thought but you hardly feel it! and they give your pure oxygen which helps you to relax.

When you have the medical they give you about 2 or 3 injections (they did with me) pain relief and anti sickness. And they were alot bigger than the little tiny needle they put in your hand with the surgical, (they told me it was a child size needle) You wake up with a sense of relief and the nurses talk to you and ask you have you are. Give you a drink and such. You're surgeon will ask you if you are okay.

Whatever decsicion you make you have to think about yourself and if you feel at any point you would regret it then you might be making a mistake. You have to be 100% sure that this is what you want. Nobody is going to judge you, You are obviously a wonderful mum who thinks about her kids first and foremost so don't worry about how others will percieve you. Nobody has to know.

I would also recommend the coil. its one of the safest forms of contraception and lasts for years without you having to even think about being pregnant.

Though id ad. The operation last about 10 minutes and the pain is minimal.

The medical was horrible. It last about 4 or 5 hours of constant bleeding. PLus the pill you will have to take 24 - 48 hours before makes painful cramping and bleeding along with sickness.

With the surgical i have had alittle bit bleeding with slight discomfort, nothing more than my normal periods.

They give the surgical from about 6 or 7 weeks to 14 weeks and 6 days. I dont think you would need gas an air it really doesnt hurt. Lots of woman hate needles but it is soo small you hardly feel it. Like a tiny tiny nip and thats it, not even as painful as pinching yourself.

Liek i said it takes about 10 minutes and you would be able to leave within 45 mins to an hour.