Hi, i'm 18 and had an abortion on January. I feel so confused at the moment, i mean i know what i did was right on one hand because i was just too young to become a mom, but on the other i kind of regret what i did... i guess i'm not over it completely. I know the decision was supposed to be only mine, but i was kind of forced by the circumstances: No job, my bf didn't really want it...he wasn't ready to become a father at his age, 25, and i totally respect his opinion, and i was also afraid of my parent's reaction if i had told them. Now i can't stop thinking about what i did.
I know i'm young and should focus on other things, but sometimes when i see a baby and a happy mother and father i just wanna cry!i don't of course...but inside i feel so sad. Why? my bf thinks i'm weird thinking about babies at this young age, but he also feels sorry for me and for what happened. I can't wait to have a baby, not because i want to replace what i had and lost(for my own fault), because i think it's the most beautiful thing ever!i know i have time...but right now i just can't seem to snap out it I was never the regreting type of person...i guess i changed. Does anyone regret their decision like i do? or not regret...let's say feel sorry and think about it really often?is it normal?

I've just recently had my abortion and im just feelin worse and worse every day. My reasons for abortion where similar to yours but now i dont think they were good enough. I have my A-level exams in two weeks and i cant revise because i cant get my mind off what i did.

I hate seeing Babies with there happy parents too, especially my aunties who have had/having babies this year..it hurts to much to see them and i just cant be happy for them. I guess its normal to feel the way we do, i believe that im gonna regret it every day of my life now. From the stories ive read most women do regret it and it will continue to stay in there minds we just need to try and move on and trust what we did was right for us and the baby.

BabyBlue x x

I feel exactly the same. I can't get my mind off of it neither, it can be stressing at times.
Some older friends of mine had babies not long ago, i do feel happy for them, but i also feel envious, when they hold their babies and everyone around is like smiling at the baby, i smile and feel like crap at the same time. I keep thinking i did the wrong thing, when rationally i know i made the right choice. I guess these feelings are quite normal, it's really subjective though, i can't just pretend like nothing happened. It happened a little more than four months ago and i still am very sensitive about it.
Hopefully time will fix everything, and we'll feel less regretful. Like you said, we need to keep in mind that we made the right decision. I always think i'm going to regret it forever, but i hope it's not going be that way!

Hi Ladies,
I know you posted these yesterday but just wanted to let you know that the old saying does count, time is a healer.
I had an abortion 14 years ago at 16 yrs old i was 12 weeks, it was the worst time and i regretteed it almost immediately, like you i couldnt bear the sight of babies or people with them and even though i was young i was lucky in that my parents were there for me whatever i decided however my boyf at the time decided to start sleeping around and i was nt mature enough to deal with any of it.
You ll never forget and you will always wonder what that baby might have been like but i now know for sure that it was the right thing to do, i no longer regret my decision as i know i could not have given my baby the life it deserved, it does get easier so please do not think there is no light at the end of the tunnel, am sending you big hugs and if you want to talk i am here.
Take care x x x

Hey, thanks for the reply. It's nice to know that someone is near you and supports you in moments like these.

I was about 8-9 weeks when i had mine in January, i was on vacation when i realized i was pregnant, and despite my young age, i was so happy. You know i probably would of kept the baby if my boyfriend had agreed... now i'm not saying he was the only reason why i decided not to keep it, let's just say he was another important reason that made me realize my baby couldn't grow up very well without a father or with an unhappy father who isn't content and will probably blame me of ruining his life it's so sad...i know my bf feels sorry for me though, he just wasn't ready.

I know i'll never forget this, and i do hope it will get easier like you said. As i mentioned before, time is a great healer, but i think your mind needs to contribute as well, if i keep saying i will regret this and feel bad for the rest of my life, it will probably be that way... so i hope i will get over it soon, even because the world is full of babies and happy parents, and i can't just want to cry everytime i see them

Your replies made me feel a little better and less alone, it's really comforting to talk to someone who understands these types of problems.

xxx Mischa