So sorry HD. I think the best thing to do would be to go to your nearest A&E and tell them whats happening.

It must be such a shock but remember you haven't done anything wrong.

Good luck with everything x

I recently posted because I'm booked in for an abortion next week.

Well, think I've now miscarried.

I started bleeding yesterday, got quite heavy at one point but now is really light again and I had period pain - like cramps.

I'm guessing I've miscarried but I feel at a total loss as what to do. I always thought a miscarriage was something that was incredibly painful and involved heavy blood loss.

I know it's ridiculously hypocritical but i'm so upset. I don't have a GP as I've only recently moved to London. The health clinic that i saw, who arranged the abortion only gave me a pregnancy test and then booked me in for next week so i'd not actually spoken to anyone or anything and now... I guess it's karma or something.

I'm pretty scared as I don't know what's happening and I haven't even got a doctor I can go and speak to.

Not even sure why I'm posting on here, like I said, i feel hypocritical to be upset about it. I feel like I've killed my baby but had planned to do that anyway.

And I'm petrified of seeing it- what would you do, just flush it away??? Who the f*ck can you ask advice for dealing with this????

Sorry, bit of a ramble....

xxx

Hi,So sorry about your loss and the pain you are going thru! U've got every right to be upset as u are grieving!Even though u intended aborting, miscarriage is one of the worst form of loss/death one could ever experience. I
've been there, felt it and still healing from the whole ordeal,two years on!

I must add though that we should be careful what we wish for!I dont know which is easier on the conscience, an abortion or a miscarriage! All the same, that sense of loss will always remain with u but only God and the pass age of time heals the pain!

Talking to someone like your partner, a friend or some body u trust,counselling or most especially prayer could help u deal with the ordeal. Most of all please learn from it and dont allow history repeat itself!

All the best for the future!

Shabass!

Hey hun...

I was in this exact situation about a month ago. I found out i was pregnant.. around 3 months.. and i came to the decision with the help of my mum that omg im 19 im too young personally to do this... so i had the abortion idea finally around my head. Then the day later i started having stomach cramps and discomfort and slight bleeding. I went straight to A+E where they did an internal examination and took my bloods for pregnancy hormone levels and i went back home. But the difference between my bleed and yours was i passed clots (the baby) and was in crippling agony. i then went back to the hosital in really bad pain, had bloods taken gaain and my pregnancy hormone levels had literally dropped off the chart which is how they knew i had miscaried (otherwise they would have still be in the 1000's) I also had a scan to confirm this and there was an empty sack. This was my 2nd one... wheras my first one i bled non stop for around 12 hours and had to stay overnight on a drip in hospital!! Thatwas much much worse.

However after the clots had passed, my bleeding went very light and the pain subsided.

why do you feel hypocrytical? there are loads of ppl in your same situation and you shouldnt feel like that. You are going through a hard time as it is.

If you want to talk just PM me and let me know what happens babe.

MANY HUGS!
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That you would be upset. You said that you were planning to abort, but you dont know for sure that you would have gone ahead with it, I know from experience that every woman has some doubts about abortion, and especially those that come on this forum. I believe that this child was not meant to be, and there is no reason for you to feel guilty, you did NOT kill your baby, and it is NOT your fault. The rate of miscarriage is really high, something like one in five, and there is a miscarriage forum on here if you want more support from women who have gone through the same thing. You have every reason to be upset - it is precious human life afterall, and was your child. I am very sorry for your loss.

I had a PM from someone recently who took the abortion pills and then was left with the tiny remains of her baby in her hands and did not know what to do. What you can do, and what she did was bury the remains of her child in a public cemetry, but before she did this she had to get a 'Certificate of Medical Practitioner' from a doctor to certify that no foul play was involved. You have to contact the local cemetry and they generally have an area for these babies in a collective grave. If this sounds like too much hassle, you could always bury the remains in a forest, or if you have any religious beliefs, then contact the local pastor of your denomination. I know that the Catholics are very sensitive to this kind of thing, and would be prepared to help you even if you are not a member of their congregation.

I do think that you should go see a doctor though, even if you dont know one personally. Miscarriage can take a few days to complete, and even if you are not bleeding now, it could restart, and you will eventually pass the remains of your child. Dont be afraid, it is a natural if upsetting thing to happen; I think you will grow stronger from this experience.

Ill pray for you for strength and blessings during this very difficult period for you
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Siobhan

So sorry HD. I think the best thing to do would be to go to your nearest A&E and tell them whats happening.

It must be such a shock but remember you haven't done anything wrong.

Good luck with everything x

I just wanted to say that I have had 3 miscarriages and do not believe for one second that the fact you were considering an abortion makes this any easier or that you deserve for it to happen in any way. I agree with the other ladies that you need to see a doctor, A&E is probably your best bet as you don't have a GP and unless you have any major bleeding or pain it's probably best to go during the daytime when the early pregnancy unit will be open. They'll probably scan you and check your bloods as the other lady mentioned but you do need to get checked over to make sure there are no complications which could lead to an infection if left alone. My heart goes out to you, it's an awful thing to go through whatever your circumstances and I hope you won't continue to beat yourself up or feel that you are somehow to blame, you're not. The miscarriage forum on this site is fantastic and I would never have got through my experiences without the girls on there so don't be afraid to post on there (or PM me anytime) if you need any info or advice. Please don't be afraid that anyone on there will judge you, the girls are lovely and will only want to help. Take care of yourself,

lotsa love,
Clare xxx