2 years ago I had an abortion, I think its the biggest mistake ive ever made! I cant seem to get over it. I totally regret the way I handled it, as I didnt tell anyone but the father. I wish so much I would have told my parents about it, as I feel i would have had so much support from them, and as a result would have made a different decision! I have felt so guilty and lost over these 2 years and although I have had months of feeling ok, something triggers inside me at times and I break down, and am down for some time after!! I really want to get on with my life, and move on from this, but I dont know how to.Has anyone else had the same sort of experience??

I know exactly what you're saying. I was married and had an abortion a year and a half ago. I also never told anyone but my husband. I wish I talked to my parents and my sister. I regret the decision that I feel I was forced to make for my own mental health at the time. I seem happy on the outside while I'm busy, but then something will remind me of it and I will break down when I get home. My marriage didn't survive either. But I think if I had felt safe in my marriage I wouldn't have wound up having the abortion in the first place. I was 3 months along when I terminated and it is the most horrible thing I've ever done. What would have been the baby's first birthday just passed. I'm always thinking of what he or she would have looked like and how my life would have been right now. I would give anything to have it back in my belly. I feel so guilty. I feel like I murdered someone and took a life that was so precious. I look around and I see families every where and I don't know why I am 38 and still alone. You have time on your side. I guess we just need more time to forgive ourselves and find some closure. Try not to be so hard on yourself and remember the good things in your life. Take care of yourself.

2 Years ago i had an abortion around 5 months after having my son.
I didnt tell any of my family as i felt i would have let them down seeing the way they acting everytime all my other sisters got pregnant just having kids.

I didnt tell anyone except my patner and he didnt make it easy as he would watch our son while i had it and for the next 48 hours.
Instead he made my family watch him and made the excuse i was off for a meal...
Well i must say sitting in that room if i had enough guts i would have walked out but i didnt have guts to stand up infront of all them people there having one or to go to my family and tell them. But now i wish i had especially now my sister is pregnant and was thinking of having an abortion i couldnt tell her that i had one and not to do it because she didnt know.

It is something that never leaves you and youwill always remember it. And it will try get you down but think of the reason why you did it that the good reasons ie you wouldnt be able to cope etc to try make it not seem like you just gave up on your baby because you couldnt be bothered saying this sometimes even thinking this it wont help as i know many nights i have cried because of what i did and not been able to talk to my family regarding it.

5 years ago i had an abortion and to this day it has been the biggest mistake of my life,i use to brake down i got quite ill for a whille, but i have now realised that at the time it was the right thing to do being only 18.
what helped me was talking about it there are quite a few helplines out there where people just listen.
Not a day goes by where i dont think about what i did and it still hurts but i have learnt how to cope with the pain.
I hope this help's.

I had an abortion 14 years ago and suffer on and off - I felt that the whole decision was taken out of my hands, I had two grown up children (late teens)at the time and my doctor seemed to assume I would not want to go ahead because of my age and the age of my children. It all seemed to happen in a dream. I beat mysef up about it on a regular basis and have only just gone to my GP (a different one) to ask for couselling. I am realy suffering at the moment and can't get over the feelings of guilt. I told a "friend" at the time, she never spoke to me again - so that didn't help so I have almost kept it hidden since then. It is a dreadful feeling but I am also wondering if part of the feeling is pushed onto us by the thoughts and comments of other people particulalry all the anti-abortionists, the thing is no knows what they will do in any situation until they are in it.

I am just hoping that the couselling can help as my son and his wife are trying and not succeeding and I keep blaming myself for that, I think if I hadn't done what I did they wouldn't have problems. It is very hard to deal with all this.
Any positive comments would be greatly recieved - please leave the negative ones at home, I have done all thenegative myself and only cruel people will consider making them.
Thanks

hi there,
I'm so sorry your having such a hard time 2 years on, i pput a message up a couple of weeks ago telling of how i went through the same thing and still am, it does get easier over time and it took me a long time to understand that i was grieving for my baby, i thought that i wasnt allowed to grieve because i had taken the decision to have a termination and that made it my fault and i deserved to feel the way i did, i was wrong! i am writing this four years on and i still feel sad when i think about it, please see your doctor and ask for councelling because it really worked wonders for me.I had judged myself for so long and thought that people would just say that it was my own fault but the councellor was fantastic! also try doing a sleep diary, when you go to bed write all your thoughts down in a book, you can swear, cry, rant and rave and get it out of your head before you sleep and its another great way of finding yourself again! the sadness will lift, but just allow yourself to have a cry, sometimes you need it. i hope this message helps you, there is help out there for you, just grab the bull by the horns and go for it!! good luck and take care xx

Hi, just thought I'd post a link for you to have a look at, it is a councelling service and has a programme to help you to recover.
Very best wishes
Louise x

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