Help! dont know what to do im 12 week pregnant

im 12 weeks pregnant by my bf of 3yrs its not the 1st time iv been pregnant in the past i had 2 abortion my 1st one i was too young and was not really with the father. my 2nd one was with my bf now of 3yrs he made me have abortion as he is muslim and his mum and dad would kick him out of the family and im white and im not musilm.
now i am 12 week only fount out last week and im so scread to tell him coz doctor say this could be bad for to have another abortion that i may not be able to have children.
all these time i got pregnant i have been on the pill or the injections and this one i had normal periods so i didnt know no change in my body no sickness. i feel so bad that i keep that i lose my bf and lose my chance of having children so i dont know wot to do. anyone who has been through sort same thing as me please let me know wot u think ...

Hi there hunny

You shouldn't abort babies just because your other half is to selfish to provide and care for them! If you want to abort then that has to be your decision, you said you have had 2 abortions already, do you not think that if you continue to abort, that this will effect you later on in life! i could be very wrong, but you really do have to sit and think about this logically sweet heart, i have 5 children and im 28, i wouldn't give them up for the world. Make the right decision for you, not anyone else hun. xxx

12 weeks

im 12 weeks too but im only 17 and this is my second kid

Hi

hi i totally understand with your bf being muslim as my other half is muslim and i'm white i'm pregnant and im on the expecting forum i told him i wasnt getting rid of a baby and he had to deal with it and he has his mum and dad was fine bout it although his dad ha barely uttered 2 word to me since but do whats best for you!!


take care donna xxx

Hi

thank youor all ur reply t really helpin me see what other ppl think and have who are knowin what im goin through.
i have told my mum abt it and she was ok wit it not wot i fort she would say but i happy my mum is not mad ro saying get rid of it.
but iv still not told the bf as im worrie wot he say and do.
to him its all about him and what his family say and do. so really dont know wot will happen if i keep it.

thank you everyone xxxx

Hi

i am with a muslim and i fell pregnant and he was worried in telling his family aswell so he like your partner also suggested an abortion but that was not an option to me,we ended up geting married while i was pregnant.his family wasnt happy that i got pregnant but they were ok with it as we did get married, 7 years down the line and we are on our 4th child he has talked about abortion with this one aswell,
like gelfish said muslims are dead against abortions they believe every child is a gift from god and to have an abortion is a sin. you have been together for 3 years if he was that scared of his family he wouldnt have been with you for so long or he would have poped the question of marriage becuase muslims are also forbidden to have sex befor marriage .dont forget this is you decission and nobody elshes,put your self befor your partner becuase he is puting his family befor you
please let us know how you get on and goodluck x

Mmm

If i had to make the choice you have to make...i would choose to carry on with the pregnancy regardless of my partner. If he truely loves you he would not ask you to abort and loose your chances of ever having another child.
You should think very long and hard about what you would like for the future...ie, do you never want to have children or would you really deep down want children?

YOU make the choice and when you tell him please dont be made to feel like you should abort because your partner days its not right for him.
We will be here to support you whatever decision you make, so dont feel like you are alone!

xxx

Have you met his parents?

Hi cicpea,

Something does not seem right here. Muslims are generally very pro life, very anti abortion, they would regard this as a big sin (obviously I am talking about his parents). This muslim boy has a lot of growing up to do. Have you met his parents? Could you go and talk to them? I know it is difficult for these second generation muslim boys to get to grips with their family's expectations of them marrying nice muslim virgins and the reality of life and sexuality in the secular world they live in, not to say their attraction for non muslim girls.

He is basically too scared to talk to mum and dad and fess up to his real realtionship with you, and the easiest thing from his perspective whould be to sweep this under the carpet AGAIN by getting you to abort his child AGAIN. Please dont let this happen again.

You need some help to get yourself through this pregnancy. If you want to PM me your postcode I will send you the contact details of pregnancy centers in your area which can advise you on your entitlements.

Your body and your fertility are precious, and you are precious in the eyes of God aswell. You need to put yourself and your baby first this time, and be brave.

Love
Siobhan

Hiya

First off you need to calm down and relax getting worked up and upset wont help you.

DOnt have an abortion just because of what hes family are saying it is your decission you love him and he loves you so im sure if he loves you he will not leave you or be angry for you wanting to keep your own child.
I was practically forced into an abortion which i now regrete and i know if i get pregnant again i will not have one just because of what other people say.

This is entirely up to you you are the wrong going to have to live with the feelings from having or not having one.
If you want one then have an abortion if not then dont.

Make up your mind before you tell anyone and tell them you have made your deccision and your sticking to it so not to bother saying to get ride etc.

It may be hard but if its truely what you want you will make it work and be happier with a child.

Hope everything turns out ok for you.