"I hate myself for having an abortion ("

i had an abortion on the 24th of january and ever since then i have'nt felt right i feel angry,depressed and very low
my babys life i took away hurts me soo much but there was no way i could have it my mum and dad would'nt let me aswell. then my parents told my doctor to put me on depro-provera and ever since jan i have'nt stopped bleeding bleeding and having funny discharge and even tho ive come of it now i still have the bleeding and discharge yet ive had vaginal swabs and they keep coming back normal does enyone have eny ideas for me??

Sorry about that. I have seen your photo, and if thats you, then you are beautiful. No need to hate yourself. Try to love yourself despite what happened. It takes time to forget but you will forget it. Forgive yourself for making that decision coz in your case others were also involved in the decision making. Besides you are still under their care. There is not much you could have done. You were vulnerable - expectant mothers usually are and its easy for them to be influenced at that time. Enjoy the rest of your day. Carol

hunny dont feel bad .firstly im on the depro and iv had wonderfull results no periods so i love it i had a bit of bleeding at first while my body was getting used to it ,my sis on the other hand went on it and bled alot to it works differant on differant people so you need to come of because you will end up aneimic .secondly hunny i dont know what your circumstances were so i cant give my views on wether or not you should have had an abortion but i dont think there is anything wrong with them .i fell preg at 16 my mum wanted me to have an abortion but i had my boyfriend by my side so i kept him and yes i love him dearly ,but i do look back and think iv missed alot and iv not got much confidence aswell bcus i didnt gain it from doing the usual things like going out etc that most girls do and this effects every part of your life.im not saying your parents were right but maybe they do have your best interests at heart,i know you probaly dont want to hear it but it may be true some times its easier to think people are being than to realise they love you and thats why they did it.and lastly i dont recomend getting preg to replace the baby you didnt have cus i had a stillborn baby 2 years ago and since iv had a healthy baby but that feeling of lose hasnt gone if anything it is worse bcus i am reminded of what i lost.all my best hunny .its never goes away but it gets easier i promise . xxxxx

stop the depro-provera? btw, your parents cant force you, physically at least, and cant just give up on you if you dont abort. try having a baby. though you cant change the fact that you aborted, you can ease it.

Dont have a baby to ease your pain, only do it when you feel the time is right

xxx

hey sweetie

all i can say is stop hateing yourself. i know its easier said than done. i had an abortion in May this year and ended up very depressed. my life fell apart afterwards and i couldn't pull myslef out. it really helped to go and talk to a counceller someone who doesn't know you and you cn be opena nd honest about it. they won't judge you. i learn't very quickly that the pain will never go away but that you can only move on with your life when you have forgiven yourself. you will never forget but you cn forgive. it will take time but it will get easier.

let your system settle down for a bit longer your body observesly didn't like the depo so just it time to returnto normal and hopefully as you get back on track things will get better. i have had issues witht he pill for years of bleeding at random times it can sort itself out.

good luck

Lx

thank you for that reply means alot
x

Hi, I had a termination just 3 years ago, and sometimes I still feel upset about it all. It will never go away but its about how you decide to live with it in the future. I just want to say stay stong, it is very difficlt to take advice when you are feeling this way, but time has been a healer for me. You cannot change the past but you can change how you think in the future. I had great benefit from attending a counsellor and worked through a post abortion programme, it really helped.

I have never had such an emotional rollercoaster as i had in the months and years following termination, but it has taught me alot about life, and decisions I will make differently as a result.

Feel free to contact if you would like to chat anytime.
Laura x