Me and my boyfriend have known for a month on wednesday that i am pregnant and automaticallu decided it wasnt the right time for a baby so i would have an abortion.
He booked yesterday off work so that we could go and see someone about it but the thing is we woke up in the morning and he said what shall we do today like the whole abortion thing was forgotten. We ended up going out and neither of us mentioned what really we should of been doing. Its like we are both putting it off and im not sure why?
This has happened like three weeks running now, he books a day off so we can sort things out and it just never happens. Is he doing this because deep down he wants the baby or what? I am so confused i wish he would come out and tell me what he really wants deep down.
Jess
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hey huni i just want to say i was exactly wea you were only a week ago me and my patner decided to get an abortion as we thought we couldnt afford it an i was so scared of telling my mum, anyway we went to the hospital and i saw the docs then had an hour wait to the procdure and in that hour i kept thinking about this baby that i already loved so much without even noing it and how it was a gift to me and that lots of people would love to have a baby and never will and this song no ordinary thing by opshop and i couldnt do it. i left the hospital and didnt have the procedure i told my mum an she took it so well! shes looking forward to being a grandma and while i know it will be hard i know that i can do it. i hope that this has made some sense and i hope that you make a descion that you wont regret.

hope some of this helped

Dear Jess,

I guess he knows in his heart and soul that this is not the right thing to do. Young people tend to appreciate life better than older people, kind of survivor mentality. Has abortion touched his family maybe? No new life is a mistake. You will be forever living with the what if if you go through with the abortion. (what colour would his eyes have been, would he look like me, He would be x years old today) If you tell me what city you are in in a private message I will pyt you in touch with a pregnancy advisory service in your area.

Take care dear Jess, take care of ryan

Siobhan x

its a hard time and its his baby too hes just confused you cant go back on your decision so do take time to think it thru properly. maybe some counselling is what you need book to see an abortion counseller thru family planning and i swear they will help you decide and your bf can go with you too. you have plenty of time as long as you know by 10 weeks what your doing its an easy operation up to 12 weeks then it gets more difficult. hope this helps and if you need a chat mail me.
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