I found out 4 days ago that im pregnant, to my boyfriend of 2 months. I was pregnant at 19 and i had an abortion, i was in no posiiton and didnt even take time to think then just had to have one. I was 2 months pregnant and suffering from the most terrible sickness 24/7. After the abortion i had a nervous breakdown, and only really recovered from this within the last year. After the abortion i vowed not to have another if i did end up pregnant again. My boobs are really sore, i have lower pains and upset tummy that wont go.

I left that relationship about 4 months ago which was a very hard relationship and 2 months into this one have fallen pregnant, im an absolute mess, im not sleeping cant stop thinking, its harder as my 20 year old brother has just announced him and his girlfriend are having a baby, my parents split up 2 years ago and my mum doesnt live anywhere near me. I am the closest to my dad but cant talk to him as hes going thru alot at this time of year and has had enough stress.

My boyfriend is being amazing, couldnt ask for anyone to be better,hes very confused also doesnt know what to do.It has really made us strong after a 2 month relationship.

I never planned on having kids after my abortion, wanted a career to move to a big city maybe travel, and now what.... my boyfriend doesnt want that he is happy where he is.. this is causing us problems..im so scared il hate the baby if i keep it though and scared il want it not near me.. i dont want to go thru another abortion and im not a teenager now, but i want a life, dont want to be at home everyday on my own with a baby, i do modelling, im a dancer... but my gut instict right now is to keep it. Please please can you give me some advice or help me in anyway... I dont know what to do or where to start thinking or anything...Please help me.

Hi Amy,

Have you thought about combining the two? You say you have done moddeling, and that you are pregnant, well there is a demand out there for pregnant models. Just googeling it I got two links in the UK

www.pregnantpause.co.uk

www.starnow.co.uk/Models-wanted/Print/pregnant_por-traits.htm

www.pregnantmodelswanted.com


Also a discussion on
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=200-70529085849AAV23 ZV

They may not want you until you have a nice big round belly, but you should contact them now in order to have your ducks in a row so to speak.

You really dont want to be going through with a second abortion, and you dont need me to tell you that either, so cling on to this dear life for dear life!

Take care

Siobhan

PS the sickness 'only' lasts for 3 months, so there is light at the end of that tunnel!

i know how your feeling ive been going thru the same thing lately and at the last minute i couldnt do it. from the sounds of it you have an amazing partner and an abortion is not what you really want your just unsure of your relationship with it being so new. i wont say its easy having a bay i already have 2 and i havnt been one for going out so have spent the last few years either working or at home with the kids but last year i decided it was my time and started college i took my 1 year old daughter with me and she went in the creche and loved it but now im expecting ive had to drop it down to an evening course which will take an extra year but i will get to where i want to be eventually. then once im there i wont have to stop to have children and i can go straight into my career, its not ideal but itll work. ive been so stressed deciding what to do i was such a mess but since yesterday when bubs kinda decided himself that he wanted to be here its like a weight has been lifted, ive even had time to get my hair cut and have false nails put on(ive wanted them for ever but only managed today)
talk to your partner and see how he feels its new but you dont know what he thinks, you can always move with a baby plenty of people have babys in the city.
when i was pregnant with my daughter she wasnt planned and i didnt find out till 16 weeks and i wasnt sure i wanted her i even rang an adoption agancy and met with them but my oh begged me to just try and see how i felt, she came 2 weeks early and i fell in love instantly and its strange remembering how i felt but things happen you can only learn from them.
its your choice hun but do you really want another abortion?

Reading your message just brought back eveything i have been through myself.I got pregnant at 17 my first thought was to keep it and i was happy.I was in full time work and my collauges were very supportive.I told my mum who had other ideas and after a lot of wereing down convinced me to have an abortion.I had never been more lost in my life and to say i regreted my decicion ever scince then is putting it lightly. 3 years later i met my darling partner and just a month later found out i was pregnant.

This time i new I was keeping this baby and my partner supported that decision from the beginning.My family didnot give us an easy time and things were not easy at first.We stood up to people and my partner and i made our plans and got ready for our baby.

To say people soon came round to the idear is an under statment as now my familiy love her to bits.Its not easy sometimes its really hard and you wont think you will make it through.I had big careear plans and a high expection of life but now i have a bueatiful 3 year daughter asleep upstairs and my partner and i are planning for another and i coulnt be happier.

you will miss out on some things in life but having a familiy is one huge mirical and you are still so young and you have so much time to acive succusse.Hope this helps and just injoy your pregnancy all my love shelly xx

I HAD AN ABORTION 4 WEEKS AGO AFTER TRYING FOR A BABY FOR 3 YEARS THE REASON BEING I WAS TOLD THAT THE GESTATIONAL SACK WAS ABNORMALY SHAPED AND THE BABY'S HEART RATE WAS VERY SLOW 110 PER MIN I AM 40 YEARS OLD SO I PANICKED AND DECIDED ON ABORTION AS I DID NOT WANT TO BRING A BABY INTO THIS WORLD WITH A LOT MORE DIFFICULTIES THAN I COULD TAKE CARE OF, NOW I AM IN A TURMOIL I AM SO SAD AND GRIEVING MY BABY SO BAD THAT I WANT TO DIE! I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO DEPRESSED IN ALL MY LIFE AND I AM A VERY STRONG PERSON I JUST ASK EVERYONE TO TRULY WAY UP YOUR OPTIONS BEFORE YOU MAKE A LIFE CHANGING DICISION BECAUSE IT HURTS SO BAD WHEN YOU CAN'T TAKE IT BACK