if you want to keep your baby. you must be so very very strong. don't even depend on your boyfriend. if you think you can raise you baby alone and so sure that you r gonna love your baby more than yourself. you an keep him.

Hello, I am 18 years old and about 5 weeks pregnant. My mom just found out and she really wants me to get an abortion. Even my sister who is 24 wants me to have an abortion. I can't believe she would tell me to do this. I really don't want to get rid of this baby. I know it will be hard and i know i will miss out on alot of things in life, but i am ready. I would never be able to live with myself if i had an abortion!!! I have talked to my boyfriend about it and we're planning on getting married. I just wish I had support from my family, but they all don't want me to have this baby...i'm so confused i don't no what to think..does anyone have any advice it would be much appreciated!

Dear ana0214,

I am also pregnant and Im 19 years old. If you think you are ready for this baby and can support her or him, then do what you think is right. Your family may not be on the same page as you right now but they will get over this and support you either way. If you show them you are making plans and taking responsibility for you actions they'll know your ready. If your boyfriend is truly ready and is honesty going to help support you and this baby I say go for it hunnie!

I'm eighteen, married to a partner of the same sex and trying for a baby. I,m also a god mum to my best friend paige's little girl, lily. SHe is only a week and a bit old and the most beautiful miniature human being i've ever seen.

My wife and i are currently studying to start our own business.

Paige is a brand new mum at just eighteen and so far she is a better mother than most older mums that i know. Lily is surrounded by so much love and really, if you have love for your child, then there is always a way. things will always work out.

I know in my heart, that you will follow yours and i support WHAT EVER decision you decide to make.

if you want an abortion because you know you cant love and support a child then get one. people think abortion is selfish, but that isa not always the case. if you were to bring a child into suffering and torment, then wouldnt that be more terrible for that child? I'm not saying you should have an abortion, but incase you decide to FOR YOUR OWN RESONS remember that it takes alot of courage, maturity and selflessness to do so. DO NOT LET ANYONE MAKE THE DECSION FOR YOU. you are the one that has to live with abortion, or a child for thew rest of your life, not them, ok?

If you decide you and your fiance wish to keep the child then, congratulations! I know you will be wonderfull parents, regardless of your age.

try to surround yourself with people who support you. dont associAte with people that are unsupportive. they will only bring you down.

... i've just looked at the date on your post and figured that my advice is way to late. I'd like to know what choice you made. brambram_81@hotmail.com

Please let me know?
Kero. X x

hey, I understand what you are going threw right now. I found out that I am currently 2 months pregnant. I told my family and because they are very catholic they want me to keep the follow threw with the pregnancy. However my boyfriend wants nothing to do with it. All he wants is the abortion because he cant support the child and we do not live together. I understand where he is coming from but at the same time I dont know if throwing away the "problem" is the responsible or right thing to do.

In your situation it is hard. I know your family means everything to you. But at the same time if your mother aborted you, you would not be here or have that family. If you feel like it is the right thing to do then by all means that is your life. But with that you also have to understand making this decision with the support of your parents is still a very hard decision to make. Follow your heart and if your family doesnt want to be there for you all you need is your friends and although you do not know me but i am in the same situation you can e-mail me when ever you would like. Just think about what it is you want and what you can handle and support. Love is a strong meaningful relationship and you should tell your family that love is not conditional. they should really grow up and stop being so selfish.

hiya, im alos 18 and 9 weeks pregnant, thankfully my mum and dad ar ok with it, however me and my boyfriend decided to wait until we told them we decided to sort everything out before hand like how we would live and where? income and how it would affect us. Try and talk to your family show them that you and your boyfriend are ready and prepared, you know it wont be easy but obviously you have your head screwed on and you seem really mature. we wanted to prove to everyone that we were ready, it may take them some time but i bet once your little one is out and they hold him/her for the first time their hearts will just melt. im so looking forward to our new arrival who is due on the 3rd november. good luck with everything, they will soon see that your ready x

Hey I know how you feel! When I was 18 I was pregnant! Me and my partner was going to have the baby! We were all for it, he already had a little boy that we looked after alot so it wasnt a big deal for him and the fact I had been loooking after a little boy for over a year didnt bother me either I knew what to do and was ready as you are!

I told my family they were happy for me, I went for my 3 month scan, everything was fine! They sh*t hit the fan (as they say) I was in the bath just after my 4th month and I started to bleed, it was like the heaviest period I had ever had in my life, I knew it wasnt healthy. Called my partner and he cried. I called the midwife and I had had a miscarriage at 4 months!!!!!!

I had to go the next day and have a surgical abortion to get rid of my child out of me! I have to say it was the worst feeling in the world....

Basically I think you should, if your ready... got for it but please be careful, I was so careful did everything by the book and well it didnt work out for me! Im pregnant now and Im having an abortion as I am too scared and think Im still too young to have a baby now...

Just be careful! and GOOOOD LLLUUUCK!!!!!

Hi there,

I've just read your reply to a post and noticed that you had a miscarriage followed by a surgical abortion which you said was horrible.
You're pregnant now but scared and have decided to have an abortion.
I know that you've made your mind up, but I just want to offer a bit of advice from my own experience.

A while ago I was in a situation similar to you and I felt that I couldn't go through with a pregnancy. But once all the shock and panic had gone away, and now Ive got a little older, I feel the complete opposite of how I did back then.
Sometimes, what feels like the right thing to do, or what feels like the only realistic option, isn't right at all - it's just your body's way of dealing with a traumatic experience. It's sort of natural to look for a way out of a difficult situation, to keep life as you know it, but that's not natural - life does go on.

I truly appreciate what it feels like to be shocked, scared or panicky about a pregnancy, but in these situations its important to remember what's really happening. It can be easy to focus on the decision that you've made and grey out the reality, but after an abortion the reality suddenly hits home, and by then it's too late.
You said that having the surgical abortion after you'd miscarried was horrible, but think how you'll feel if you abort knowing that you killed a child.
That little baby is a baby - it knows if it's a boy or a girl, if it's got dark hair or light hair etc and although at the moment it's natural to look at all the negatives, you have to remember that bringing a child into the world is an amazing thing. It can be hard at times, but the other times make it all worthwhile, especially at special occasions.

This baby has everything it needs to grow into a person that you'll share your life with as you get older, except for one thing - a chance.

I know it's hard, but try not to focus on the immediate future, but look long term. This baby inside of you is someone that will share their life with you, you'll watch her grow up, through the first day at school, to exams, to her first job and one day, you could be a Grandmother to her children. Think of what both you and your baby will miss out on if you abort her.

I hope this helps,

All the best

God bless

I'm also 18 and almost 4 months pregnant. unlike you though my family wants me to keep the baby or give it to another family. my boyfriend and i want the baby now that we have truly talked about all of the options. in the beginning though i was so torn. i knew it would be selfish of me (in a way) to end this baby's life and continue on with mine as if nothing ever happened, and also the fact that i have a scaler ship from a great college for my voice and my boyfriend makes straight A's. but we have decided to give that all up and raise our baby. and like you said, it will be hard,but it is something that we have to deal with now because of what we've done. i could never give up my baby to another person or just throw his or her life away. i think that i would always have a whole in my heart that i could never fill something that can never be fixed. i don't know what to tell you to do. i mean I'm just as confused as u are I've just had a little more time to think about all this. and your baby is yours not your moms and defendants not your sisters and ultimately it is you and your boyfriends choice what you do and what rout you take. and remember, everything happens for a reason.

>Miranda

If you truely want to have that baby then by al means have that baby. Do not let anyone try to talk you out of it. If people don't like your decision they will either have to learn to live with it or just forget it. Personaly anyone who even mention abortion should not be able to voice their oppinions, because abortion is killing even if it just a fetus. I wish you the best of luck in your new journey. Just reamber one step at a time and one day at a time.

Whatever you do dnt listen to your family. Iv had it all already of my family and friends. But they get used to the idea after a wile.

I am stil goin threw some of the things your goin threw. But im looking for a house now becos I crnt live at home. I wunt beable to live with myself if I got rid of a child. Dnt worry you will get the support of your family eventually jst giv them some time.

hi i'm going to be 18 and i think im pregnet and my boyfriend said hes not ready for a baby and i think im not eithier and he says he probably want me to have a abortion but i don't want one it not the babys fault! anyways if you plan on getting married and you want to have the child i say go for it girl i bet you'll become a great mother if your willing to sacrifice your teen years!

if you want to keep your baby. you must be so very very strong. don't even depend on your boyfriend. if you think you can raise you baby alone and so sure that you r gonna love your baby more than yourself. you an keep him.

Hey, this is so weird for me. Im 19 and pregnant and my mom has already kicked me out, let me back in and is still demanding for me to get an abortion. My mother's side of the family is all telling me I need to get one. Now my boyfriends family, they are getting us a place to live. Very odd. Anyways I am 10 weeks pregnant and still confused myself. I just wanted to let you know that there are other people out there like you. Whatever you do, make sure it is for yourself and NOBODY else. My mother asked me if I could do it for her (how selfish right?). Well sweety I wish you the best of luck and may GOD be with you.

hey im 18 and 2months iv told my mum shes not happy shes kicking me out i told my 21 year old sis and she told me it would wreck my life and thinks im not ready i think i am even though i havnt got that much money at the mo i wld do anything for my baby i think im ready so you do what you think is right if you living at home your not going to be there for ever at the end of the day you have too look after num1 and thats you love gabbiex

Wow, I know it must feel that everyone is against you right now. I am so glad that you don't want a abortion. I am not 18 and don't know what your going thru, but I am 26 and married and unable to have a baby, and desperatley want one, so what you have is a gift. If you are not ready to be a mom, you can always consider adoption. I just wanted you to know that someone is proud of you even though you don't know me. Thank you for standing up for your unborn child.

i kno wot u mean im 16 and just had a 7 day old, as long as you are fit and feel ok about urself keep the baby who cares what they think, its god baby for gods sake!!!my baby was 2 weeks premature and even hassled me to get an abortion and she turned out gorgus anyway you go girl

Excuse for my english I'm French girl !!!
My sister have 17 years old and about 27 weeks pregnant. My parents accept this situation and other members of my familly (brother and sister) and me too.
I think if you and your friend want this baby, keep it. I know you are young but I say in the futur you regret to get the abortion, and your parents too.
Sorry I don't find my words I prefer stop my message.
good luck.

Hey Im pregnant right now as well, Im also 18, the only difference is my family supports me. If you and your boyfriend are happy then thats all that counts, and if you are both taking the right steps to make a good life for the baby. Your family will come around when the baby comes, or even sooner. At the beginning of my pregnancy my dad didnt support this at all, however he did not want me to have an abortion he wanted me to give her up for adoption...he is now very excited to be a grandfather, and has bought the most out of anyone for her. I hope this helps a little bit, I know it would be nice to have there support now, but better later than never. Good luck with your pregnancy and hope everything works out for you! xoxox always Leticia!

Hey, congratz on your pregnancy..i'm really glad you have a lot of support!! Well my mom hasn't changed her mind about it at all yet. To make a long story short she has basically said to either have an abortion or get out. My boyfrind lives in New York, and I live in Canada (Toronto). My mom has known my boyfriend since he was a baby because our families are really close and our moms grew up together. So she knows for a fact that he would never leave me alone, thats why i don't understand why she is so determined for me to have an abortion. We also constantly fight about this, we don't have normal conversations anymore. I am planning on moving to New York with my boyfrind and we will get married there and get an appartment. Is this is what has to happen in order for me to have my baby then i'm ready for it..thanks for all your help and good luck!!!

Sounds like you have a big load on your shoulders. But honestly if your mum is being like that, shes being very selfish...maybe she doesnt want her little girl to grow up to fast. Im not allowed to live at my parents house when the baby is born...so I guess it is a similar situation in a way...but I would rather not live here anyways when I have my baby. Im from Ottawa, so your only about 4 hours away from here. Im honestly able to say this, but if you do end up getting an abortion (which it sounds like you arent) you will have to live with that guilt for a very long time, and you will always blame your mother for it....if you have it then all your risking is some time away from your mother...chances are she will come around eventually...and then you have your husband, child, and mother, it will just take alittle more time. I dont want to sound like Im pushing my opinion on you, I just wish I had someone to tell me this stuff when I first found out. I hope you and your Fiance enoy your baby to the fullest...nothing could be a greater joy than a baby, even if you are 18. XoXoXoXoXoXo Just hold your head up and dont get to stressed, or else that coould hurt your baby. Bye for now xxooxox leticia

The main thing you have said is that YOU dont want to get rid of your baby.This is your life and you have to live with any decisions that you make not them.
Like you i was 18 when i had my daughter. i wont lie to you and tell you its easy coz it aint.but i would never change or regret what i did.
It obviouse that they are only thinkin of you but you need to explain to them that not having the child is the last thing you want.
talking is the best thing .
take care and good luck xx