Why am i like this??

Hello, I'm need some advice sorry if this seems silly but would this bother anyone else coz i really dont know what wrong with me. Going to be long sorry.

I've been with my bf for 8months now and a few months ago i went with him to a party and meet who he worked with and their partners.
Anyway one of his workmates girlfriends spent most of the evening with my boyfriend, she told me how before he meet me they used to always hug when they meet each other but since he meet me he didnt do it and she missed it so he hugged her.
It was really hot where we were and when we were chatting together she kept wiping the sweat off his forehead. Then later on they were having a convo between themselves leaning into each other eye contact that kinda stuff and her boyfriend walked over and said something to them and they completely ignored him, he just rolled his eyes and walked off.

Later on when we were about to leave my bf said about sneaking out and then the next minute went to find this woman to tell her we were off but didnt even consider telling the woman whos party it was we were off.

Then a few weeks back there was another party but i couldnt go as i was working and he told me about the evening and he basically spent the evening with this woman. And also where he works they had loads of milk left over that they needed to get rid of so what does he do takes it round to theres and then later on says oh did you want some milk coz i gave it all to them. Then when his mate pops into work he always has to go out to see her. WTF???

I dont know whats wrong with me part of me knows he loves me and nothing will happen well all of me knows that part but everytime he mentions hes seen her or talks about her my blood boils up inside and i switch off to what he tells me. Am i insane or what??

Been there

Well I feel like this girl should be concentrating more on her own guy than yours. She should know that she has to back off some when he has a girlfriend. You have a right to feel a little insecure because the only person your guy should be chatting and laughing with in a corner is YOU! So calmly let him know that it makes you uncomfortable and if he really cares he'll put a stop to it. My fiance had some girl friends who used to come to him for everything and even wanted him to spend time with him when we first hooked up but I let him know I wasn't cool with it and he stopped completely so I'm sure if your relationship is right he'll do what he has to do to make you comfortable even if it means letting go of a good friendship with another woman.

Hey

babe i defo dont think ya insane i no if it was happening to me i wud feel the same and having a certain amount of jelousy or insurcurity is healthy in a realationship its only cos u love them so much! i was feeling like it a few months ago my bf started working wiv this woman and it just seemed every chat we had her name wud cum up got to the point where she was all i heard about but i played it down for a while till one day i had a massive ... fit in the kitchen an it all came out how i felt after his jaw stopped swingin he was so sorry and just neva realised it had upset me so much! maybe this is the case wiv u im not saying hav a ... fit but u shud really tell him how u feel

Hey hun..

hey gurl..i dont think ur crazy but obviously a bit insecure about his relatioship with this girl. if he's honest enough to tell you that he spent the eve with her at the other party den maybe nothing's goin on but if it's bothering you this much, you should have a chat with him. just tell him that you dislike the way he tends to ignore you when he's around her and that he's hurting you. if he cares and love you enough, he will include do what he can to make you feel better. Take an interest in this woman, if he's that good friends with her den suggest goin out on a double date with them. it might help you in a lot of ways, it'll help you calm your nerves. this is coming from experience. my boyfriend used to have dis friend, who also happened to be a very beautiful woman. u can obviously understand how i might have felt when i ee him just chattin away and laughing with her when m at the other end of the room. once we started going out with her, it was pretty clear that he felt nothing for her.

Just give this a shot. it might really help you feel better coz right now ur jus building up resentmnt and tormenting urself. hope it works out well for u hun..xxx

Problem gal huh?

hey there this gal seems like a real problem and no i dont think you are crazy but the bigger problem is your bf bcos he seems to be enjoying the attention from this gal.so as far as im concerned you cant let him keep doing this to you.he nmeeds to start considering your feelings or you need to leave him.

Reply

Yeah, she's so right! He's the problem, not you. No offence and all, but he really should be focusing on you and he should notice how great you really are as a person.

Thanks

Thanks for your replies its nice to know i'm not going crazy.

I found something else out this weekend which makes me feel less insane too, i was chatting with his mum and she mentioned his workdos and his last 2 exes. She was saying they went to a few parties and then didnt go again because they didnt like his friends so i'm wondering if this woman is the reason.
I did ask who they meant and she didnt know . I asked about where he worked before and she said his ex went to all the workdos they were invited to then.

Maybe i'm reading too much into it but i keep wondering if this woman is the reason neither of them wanted to go. I've meet his workmates and they're all nice.