Am i a fool???

I've been with my bf for nearly 3 years.
He's not had a very good time with jobs and has been unemployed and looking for a job since March this year.

Moneys been tight for him but I've helped out on the understanding he pays me back. He now owes my nearly a grand.

We went on holiday in July (We booked this with my parents in January)and for his birthday he asked for money so to use as spending money. My mum and uncle give him 20euros each and the rest was from others in english money. His birthday was 5 days before we went away, he had £200 in english money and before we left for the airport he told me he only had 40euros of birthday money left!! But at the airport he put 20 pounds on his phone!!! I'd only asked earlier that day if he could give me £20 to give the taxi for his share but he said no!!!I was struggling with money by this point trying to save for my spending money, pay for a holiday, credit card and car so only had £500 to change to euros when we got there.

So far he's given me nothing to start paying me back and now I've got no money (Had to pay for car insurance and road tax when we got back off holiday).

And the other day his sister gave him money and he spent it on his phone.

He's taking me for a mug isn't he???
I know he's having a hard time but its like he just doesn't believe I have no money or he won't take it seriously.

Is he worth the tears and stress??

Please help all advice welcome.

Thanks Sophy

Aren't boyfriends supposed to be fun?

Hey, sweetheart, I'm a bit of an old girl, being 47 and all, and I have done that stuff - it is supposed to be a benefit to your life, having a boyf, but he is a pain in the a**e, really, isn't he? Boyfriends - good boyfriends - DO NOT DO THAT.Same for women - good girls sort out their own stuff.
Cut your losses, and get rid, love. If he is living off you at this stage, then that means he will always let you down, so tell him you don't want that, and move on. He is holding you back.
Don't be afraid to be on your own - you won't be. You should gather your friends around you, tell them you are dumping him, and make plans to enjoy life for a bit, and get him out of your system.
You are better than that.Do it, relieve yourself of pressure, and move on - life is too short....

Advice

hey hun i no someone who is more or les in the same situ as u ,her partner is in and out of work all the time he hasnt had a job for the last 12 months so she has been paying for everything! at first this was ok as he was having probs and as they had been together 8 years she was willing for him to have some time out but it got to the point where he was lending wat little money she had left to blow on himself and basicaly she was working just to live, he got way to used to being carried! my advice to u wud be to be cruel to be kind and stop the lending hun cos your not doing him or yourself any favours if u let it go on, he needs to realise he needs to stand on his own to feet as a man and go and find a job and pay u back!

Hiya

My boyfriend and I both work fulltime to pay for our house and holidays. Yeah we lend each other if the the others short because that's what being in a relationship is about...sharing. Your boyfriend however is taking you for a mug and won't see the point in going to get himself a job if he's borrowing off everyone else. Be firm, don't give him money so he'll have to get himself out and find work. In the meantime think about if this is the relationship you really want.
Hope it works out for you.
Laura x