Not much fun . . .
heya darlin. I have been in exactly the same situation as you many times, except possibly for the fact that the sex talk is in my nature! lol. but thats the difference between you and me, and I never get involved in that with someone I really really like, although that must sound really bad. oops, becasue it causes confusion and can lead to getting hurt.
i think that if its not in your nature to do that kind of thing and you don't feel comfortable with the idea that other people might find out or that he's just using you for sex then you should stop. you should only be doing that kind of thing with people you really trust. if he's said to your friend that he only likes you as a f++k budy but nothing more you have to think about how much you really like this guy. if you like him alot and enjoy the sex talk and feel that it really does establish a positive link between you then you maybe should consider being his f++k budy, that way you'll be close to him physically but you'd have to understand that it wouldn't ensure emotional closeness alongside.
on the other hand if he is just using you maybe you should consider whether he's really worth it, being used isn't always an awful thing, if you're getting some satisfaction out of it at the same time, but if its one-sided and he's the only one getting benefits then you should think about whether you really deserve to be treated that way, or are you worth more than that? especially if its really true that he knows you like him, then he's just taking advantage. which is not fair!
being associated with someone sexually is always flattering, as you well know, but before going any further or continuing you should find out exactly his feelings towards you, so when you make a decision you can make the right one taking both of you into account.
sorry if this hasn't been helpful or just a big pile of waffle,there is some sense in there somewhere. good luck
let us know how it goes
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