Unsure as to what's going on!

Can anyone help me please to fathom out whats going on with me and a work colleague?
I've been working with a guy for the last few months, and we get on well,we share the same sense of humour, and when we meet at work, we can't stop grinning at each other, even though theres nothing to grin about!! - It sounds really daft, but we are both quite shy, and when we are alone in the office nothing is said much, but when there are others around, we find it easier to talk to each other! Anyway we've had a couple of conversations by text as he sends these daft jokes to my personal phone now and again, and one time it got abit flirty and he asked if I wanted to meet up for some no strings fun?
I politely declined and said it wasn't my thing, and he replied with an ok answer..but I expected him to be abit off with me at work the next day, only he wasn't..I know this should have put me off him, but he is still going out of his way to speak to me , and sometimes rings me about a work thing even though I know he knows the answer, its as if he just wants an excuse to talk to me, he's also quite touchy feely and will often touch my waist when he goes past me or will stand really close when he does'nt need to , or touch my arm when he's talking to me etc....He also blushes when he talks to me and I get butterflies when I see him.. I defintely think there is some sort of chemistry between us, and have never had these feelings before...What are anyone elses thoughts on this? do you think he likes me or have I developed some sort of obsession about him? lol!
thanks

Tell me about it *sigh*

Hiya
You're not the only one this has happened to - I'm sure you know. It's easy to fall for that sort of man. A couple of years ago a lad and I became quite flirty, and I got the impression that he quite liked be. He was the same as the way you discribed your colleague and I fell for it - though luckily I didn't let anything happen. I did a bit of delving into his relationship history and found out he's been the same with others. It turned out that he was going round telling his mates and mine that I'd jump into his bed as soon as he clicked his fingures. I felt like a right fool and lost my friends respect. I just took a step back once I found out, and now he won't even look at me.
Unfourtunatly I fell stone in love with him and the whole thing really shook me up. I'm shaking writing this message lol.
I'm not saying your colleague is up to the same thing I'm just saying don't get to sucked in, cos it's you who will have to deal with the after shock.
Sorry if I've gone on a bit and scared you; it's just I haven't really spoken about this properly before.
L.H.

Re:tell me about it ... 2nd answer

Hiya lillyhopper
Meant to say,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me....
I don't think this colleague will be discussing me like this....unless what I think about him is totally wrong, but I get what you mean about not getting sucked in...as no matter what someone is doing, or how they are flirting with me I still seem to have this invisible guard up, and abit of wariness, which I think can be abit of a negative thing sometimes!! but Im still shocked by how I'm feeling about this person, as I don't understand how hes managed to get under my skin like he has!!??
Thanks again
Peggysue18

Re: "tell me about it"

Hi
Thanks for your reply - sounds just like I feel...anyway, me and this colleague had to go to a meeting together the other night and asked if I wanted to travel to it with him..anyway I was feelin nervous about it all day, and found out that he'd been off from work that day, had phoned in sick, so I text him to check that he was still going to the meeting after work, and he said yes, as he was feelin abit better...anyway, I decided to just be normal, and try not to be nervous, and we just chatted on the way there, about work, and he asked me what I did in my spare time etc.... he told me that he'd applied for another job about 2 hours from where we live, which really shook me - I'm gutted , he won't know whether hes got it until the end of this week so fingers crossed he won't!! , anyway at the meeting we did a presentation together which went well, and the ride home was ok...mind you, I was a bit quick saying my thankyous when he dropped me off, and seemed to jump out of the car!! lol...anyway haven't heard from him since then, sent him a text to say thanks for the lift.....but can't help feeling gutted about the prospect of him leaving from work...won't see him till next week, now, when by then he'll probably know if he's got this other job - am not looking forward to what the answer will be....

From a gutted and mixed up feeling girl!!

Re: to meeting update

hi
I glad your presentation went well - always rememeber newer use red and blue ink together lol.
Thats a bummer about his new job prospect, as long as you keep in contact it should be ok. But you never know if he does get this other job you might find yourself seeing him outside of work. If you want to get to know him more ask him if he would like to go out with you and your friends sometime - whether he gets the job or not.
Good stuff about the great about your invisible guard, I've sort of got one too and I know what you mean about it being a bit irratating at times.
L.H.

I have a few questions

Is he married/in a relationship..thats the big one.."unhappily" still counts.If he is, my advice is he is a "sparkle stealer" back away - no run.
Also have you seen how he is with other women in the office...watch this carefully, is it just his way..or just for you?
An invite for a drink after work or cinema or a meal ..nice...no strings fun!!!!.hmmmm warning bells.If you are shy you are right to be very careful.
The chemistry is the sparkle and it really exists, its also a very vulnerable time when women's common sense switches off..and when we make our biggest mistakes..even without the answers to my questions..I suggest you enjoy the flirt and wait ...time will tell.
H

Unsure as to what goin on!

Hi
Thanks for your advice, in answer to your Q's - no he's single, and no hes not like it with the 4 other women in the office, as I made a point of checking!! - anyway theres been another development...it turns out that we are both going to a meeting after work, and he's asked if I would like to go with him - so I'm going to see how things go, as it'll be the first time we've gone anywhere on our own without anyone else from work being around...I'll let you know.....
Thanks!

Re "hay sounds interesting!"

Hi
Thanks for your email...the presentation went ok...and although I felt nervous all day about going to it with him I felt quite comfortable travelling to it with him...we just chatted and it was nice...nothing was said about the flirty text messages...anyway I sent him a text the next day to say thanks for the lift ...got no reply, saw him today at work, he said he got my text and thanks and other than that he hasn't really had anything to say! - feel abit deflated !! thought we were getting to know each other abit better -but he didn't even stop to chat at all today, and just walked past my office saying hello..normally he seems to go out of his way to speak....so don't really know what to make of it all!! my head is just telling me to forget about him, and the flirting must be all in my imagination?? but whenever I see him I get all these silly soppy feelings again!! - any ideas of how I should deal with it??
Thanks !

At a total loss of what to think ????

For those of you who have read my past threads ...I'm really confused, now!! Saw the man I've been going on about at work today, and all he managed was a hello this morning, and other than that he hasn't had a word to say to me - just don't know whats going on now...??? its gone from really chatty - going out of his way to speak , touchy feely, and being lovely...to practically nothing!!- I feel like we've fallen out or something - or like I have done something wrong??? Feel like I've been dumped and we haven't even been out???!!!! - Can anyone please help me work this one out, cos I'm totally flumoxed!!!...
Thanks
PeggySue18

Getting really frustrated, now!!

Hi everyone, I'm here again! After a somewhat weird time last Monday, with the man in question, I saw him today, and he was all smiles again....I found out from my boss talking about it in the office that "he" got the job he applied for, so have felt gutted ever since I heard since the middle of last week...as soon as I heard, I text to say I knew, and congradulate him, even though I felt gutted!! - he replied by ringing me, and telling me it would be more money....and a better job... Anyway, after speaking to him , at the end of last week, he sent a couple of silly jokes over the weekend, and then was all smiles today, asking me if I was ok, everytime he passed my office, and was talking to the other staff about if they were coming to his leaving party. As he was doing it he was standing really close to me, and looking straight at me - I know for a fact I had this awful disappointed look on my face when he was talking about leaving, but don't know if he could tell ..
Feel really, really, gutted, that he's leaving, and although I feel pleased for him , I feel gutted at the same time , for myself..What can I do, any advice on how to get over this????
To top it all he passed a really cute remark today as well, he brought one of his clients into my office, to see if I could help them (i'm a tutor) and asked if I taught IT skills, I said no - I wasn't that clever, and he replied - you are, you don't realise how clever you are??? - didn't know what to say!!
Can anyone please offer any tips/advice - as I'm really lost for what to do!!!!