Should i saty or should i go

hi,
where do i begin..i am looking for anwers to questions i need answering. deep down in my heart i probally know the answers but getting advice from totall strangers can be a big help.
i have been with my husband now for 14 yers we have four beautifull children.we found out that our son had a disability at a young age of 2 and since then my husband has never talked bout it just totally blanked it out of his head like it doesnt exsist.
he works full time and then when he comes home from work he sits on a computer to early hours in the morning talking to complete straners on a game server.he never sits anymore with myself or the children it is as though we are complete strangers to him....i dread weekends when he is of work he picks little arguements with myself and the kids so he can spend all his time on the computer,,,i know this is sad.
my heart tells me to leave there is nothing there anymore but my head tells me to stop for the childrens sake.......i know i will regret it in 10 years time when all the children are grown up but my head tells me this is something i need to do....there is no love left in the relationship we are 2 different people now but i feel i have been tortured to much my self esteem is low to leave...where would i go with my children...yes i have family but my mam is getting on in years now and i dont want to worry her....to the family and outside world we are ok but behind close doors i am lonely and sad....it is my children who keep me going..
thank you all for taking time out to read this and i would totally appreciate your true advice on this
joane

Your anwser

Hello Joane

I am also having the same problem, but the best thing which i could recommend to you is to sit your husband down and talk to him about how you feel, your feeling very down and emotioanl and i know you think leaving him is the best option but honeslty talk to him, see whats going on in his head and how he is feeling? And if he isnt happy and your not then i think the best thing will be to go both your septerate ways. I know it will be hard espeially with the children but do you want your children to grow up with parenst fighting all the time and no affection? I wouldnt id want the best for them. Im sorry things arent going well, and i know how you feel, my bf always puts him computer and games first and i am feeling very neglected right now. So talk to him see how it goes and if things dont improve then follow your gut.

Take care and i hope this has helped.