Is it more than friends?

My ex who has just split from me is meeting a man that she met on myspace. I know since we split up that she was texting this guy from the day that we split. It is now 2 1/2 months since the split and this guy has turned up at my ex's 3 times. She say's that it's only friendship but they have taken the kids to a hotel for the past two weekends. She say's that they sleep in seperate beds as there is nothing going on. I am highly suspicious as they also speak on the phone for at least 2 hours 3 nights a week. I know that since she is my ex I don't have the right to know, but she said that the split was so she can sort herself out and work out what she wants. She also said that she didn't want a relationship and all men are ... but then she does this. She say's that she gets on better with men than women. So can she be telling the truth or is it lies as to keep me hanging on incase it doesn'twork out?
Many thanks for any advice or theories that can be given.

Mark1970

Aww poppet

i can see where your both comming from
for a start im like your ex i get on with lads better than lasses so dont feel to thretend by that trait she has.
honestly i dont think shes trying to hurt you on purpose and she might just need some one to talk to and its always easyer to talk to (strangers) people you dont know that well.
if you keep interfering about this other bloke tho you will push her away even more if you see her just invite her for a friendly cup of tea and have a chat about anything apart from your break up or your dislike for this bloke.
i know its hard as you still seem to care for her best of luck x

Thanks

Thanks for that. I have spoken to the ex and I can believe that they are just friends, but another thing that cncerns me is that he wants more. To cut a long story short, my brother dropped off my daughter and had a chat with the ex and this other man, and he said that the other man does have other intentions. It wasn't said outright but the words used were setting the alarm bells running and my brother hasn't ever been wrong before about this type of thing. I guess it all depends on my ex but she can be easily led at times if the correct words are said.

That said, I can accept the fact that she needs some-one to talk to and as you say strangers are the best as me coming on here and asking proves. It is always good to get impartial advice.

I will follow your advice on not talking about this guy and the relationship and see where that leads.

Again, many thanks

Mark

No problem

poppet as for this guy who wants more with your ex, he doesnt sound very decent, im guessing your ex is a bit vunrable at the moment and may be easily led more than normal. the only advice i can give even if it hurts is to just let things run there course between your ex and this bloke, im sure as she begins to feel more stable she will realise more than likley this bloke is a compleat mug for taking advantage when shes not 100%. all you can do for now is just say friendly with her best of luck poppet xxx

You are correct but can it be done?

There is alo to be said about this other guy, but as long as my ex is careful, then it should be fine. My ex was in hospital for a couple of day's this week and she said that it was me that she would like by her side, which I was. I never mentioned us or the split but she did metion that it brought back happy memories of the past that we spent together. When she came out of hospital, she stayed the night at mine (seperate beds) but we managed to talk and have a laugh and flirt. She had started to write me a letter and that bascially said that she was a confused, stubborn, selfish person who forgot how to love and that she wants to sort herself out. She also say's that she has gone off sex and that she needs to find herself again before she can love again. So after following your earlier advice and with this latest reply, I think that I can have at least small chance with her again, but only if she doesn't do anything whilst telling me the opposite.
Again, many thanks for the reply as it helps me so much
Mark