Fancy my pychologist

inlust, you proberbly feel strongly for this man as you tell him a lot and he listens - A guy who listens - I would fall in love too!

But on a serious not I think it best you get a female pychologist instead - I'm unsure if I agree to the telling him part as it may be embarassing for the both of you - and he will let you down which will hurt you. Maybe you should let him know that you really like him as you find he help you but you feel as though you have problems which you would feel much more comfortable for the womans ears rather than a mans.

As for your current boyfriend - if your not happy with him then dump him and move on, there is no point staying in a relationship if your unhappy!

Re:fancy my psychologist

Dear inlust5, I am afraid to tell you that nothing will be able to develop between you and your psychologist. You need to be honest with your psychologist and tell him that you have developed feelings for him. This is not an uncommon situation as many clients develop feelings for their counsellor. Be aware that the feelings that you have are based on a "therapeutic relationship" not a friendship. Your psychologist will then be able to handle the situation appropriately by transferring you to a new therapist, and he will understand the situation.
In order to be happy within yourself, nevermind a relationship, you must continue your counselling. I understand this because I have been ther. So take a little bit of courage and get a new therapist. Trust me it will work out for the best, ie you will start to make progress in changing your life for the better.
I hope this helps a little! Luv Ax

Unrealistic attachment

hi, well as harsh as it may seem this is a very common problem.It is quite usual to form an attach to someone who listens has empathy and can seem like the ideal person who starts to feel like this person really understands me. However,be realistic they are paid to do a job that they have trained for, and that they do guinely want to help its in their nature.
Moreover, its the best psychologist that can give out this empathy but it is for the client on a professional basis.
It appears that you are realising through a professional intimacy that your feelings are coming to the fore and that kind of calmness and understanding makes you feel good even to the point of lifting your self esteem. Therefore use this time and the experience to move on in your life and ask to see another psychologist maybe a woman.Whatever you choose to do remember you have come this far and have learned a lesson and the very fact that you are questioning your feelings and seeking advice seems to me that deep down you now yourself the true answer and keep that in mind. All the very best and remember there is always a solution to every problem. tpx

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well, i don't really agree with "nothing will happen", from my own experience i can say that such relationships are possible and quite frequent (i mean between psychiatrists ad their clients, different teachers and their clients etc)I also can say that such relationships do not usually last, that's it. so, you have to decide for yourself, whether it is what you really need or not. that's it. no prob if you have something with him, i think you'll both cool down to each other soon...

Told him

i told him today and he was absolutaly lovely about it.Im glad iv been honest with him and i feel alot better about it now.
Aparently its very common and he has had both women and men fancy him.
Our sessions are not stopping as i understand nothing will happen and because i like him as a psychologist most of all

Told him

There you have it. It's not unusual for clients to fancy their psychologist. It is because they are comfortable with the person already since they voice out their problems to him/her. Work on the relationship you have that's been going on for 7 years. Isn't that why you're there and not because of the psych?

Fancy my pychologist