I need some advice.. pretty urgently?

I feel like I'm fighting for no reward.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months; I've fallen in love very quickly, which may seem suspicious, but it's an obvious fact. I adore him. Unfortunately I once questioned my feelings for him, without telling him. A month or so ago. He found out the hard way when it was revealed that I cheated on him. I almost slept with another man, but guilt stopped me before it got too far. Of course, it was all made worse by the fact that I didn't tell him. He found out because the one that I almost slept with turned out to be a manipulative trickster who played with my desires; apparently he was just using me to reveal what I was in his eyes; a whore. He did so by pretending to be everything he knew I wanted; romantic, assertive, things like that. It was a meaningless mistake, at the end of the day, and it took a lot for my boyfriend to take me back, which he did 2 weeks ago. I may be asking a little too much, but he is constantly making comments about what happened. The cold and nasty kind that send me from cloud nine, to feeling little more than dirt. I've apologised as much as possible, done all that I can to prove that I love him, that it's real and that I'm worth a second chance. Trouble is I don't feel like I'm getting one.. and it hurts every time he so much as mentions it. He knows this..

Am I really asking too much, this soon? Or is it right to feel this way?


Please, someone help me out.

Char' x

Hey there

unfortunately your boyfriend may be like this for a little while longer because it hurts a lot to hear the person you care for a lot even considered someone else. you're probably going to have to bear with this reaction for a little longer because he's either:

a) testing how much you love him because if you didn't love him you wouldn't have put up with this.

b) trying to make you see how much he's hurting because of what happened by hurting you to the same extent.

i hope everything goes well for you. good luck!

Hey hun

i have been in your boyfriends position and i took my partner back too, this was a few years ago now.
i did mention it a lot and still do on occasions because it still hurts.
i wanted to make sure he realised how much he had hurt me and that he will never do it again.
i didnt want him to think if he went and did it again i would take him back again.

it will take to heal and in time he will learn like i did, but he probably wants you to hurt as much as he did.

x

Hey hun

I think in the nicest way possible just tell him to get over it. He obviously took you back because he loves you or else he wouldnt of given you a 2nd chance. Fair enough you didnt tell him but just ask him that if you had of told him, would it of changed anything? You obviously kept it from him becuase you didnt want to hurt him. So just tell him that by making horrible comments all the time hes going to drive you away anyway. Just remind him that you didnt sleep with this guy and that the thoughts of him in your head made you walk away from it. I know its wrong to of gotten yourself into that situation in the first place but if he keeps putting you down, you will never work!! Hope this helps xxx

Hi

the way i see it is u didnt actually sleep with the guy so whats the problem and u2 were just starting off maybe u didnt realise how much u liked him till this happened?? hes obviously going to be upset id just reasure him that u picked him and it made u realise u want hin no1 else and ur sorry that u doubted it after all ur human hun, he shud not be treating u like ... hun thats not fair im sure if the shoe were on the other foot ud be upset but u wudnt give hurtfull remarks just tell him how u feel and be sure to talk this through proply because it cud eat at him if u dont xxx