End of my relationship !!

I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years now but over the last 6 months or so I have completely gone off sex. It's gone from 3 times a day to 3 times a month ! It's realy putting a strain on my relationship because I have no reason to give my partner when he ask's me why.

I can't explin why this is happening to me and my partner has had enough and says he wants to leave. What do I do, has this happened to anybody else ? Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Spice it up

well if he wants to leave cause the sex isnt enough..i thinks that bogus.. a relationship isnt just based on sex..maybe you should spice it up a little and get dressed up or do some forplay or maybe do some crazy positions.or role playing...that will keep him satisfied.

'story same here'

i've been with my partner 6years this year. after having my first child when i was 18 and my partner 24 then 2 years later i had our second child 2 years ago, everything was perfect after having the children,

its only recently i have gone totally off sex i think my partner thinks i'm having an affair or something, i also feel really down.

do you still love your partner and have feelings for him?

i went to doctor and she thought i was doing to much being only 23 and having 2 children full time job and trying to be a mother too and she tried to give me anti depressants which i'm really not keen on at all

hoope things are better for you soon!

Hi kerrie

I just want to say well done will juggling all you are doing!

But I just wanted to comment on the fact that your Dr gave you anti-depressants and your not keen on them. Instead of taking them you should try a herbal version St Johns Wort (except if your on the pill, they stop it working)and take up some exercise. This will increase your sex drive and make you feel better.

I know your prob thinking when am I going to have time to do that, but if you can try to fit some in a couple of times a week it will really help....I speak from experience! Also do you and your partner make time for each other as in still have dates etc?

I don't know what advice to give you on the fact that you think your partner is cheating. But I hope he is isn't.

I hope your feeling brighter soon and I'm here if you need someone to off load on!

Laura xxx

Strange

hi how weird kerrie your situation is exactly same as mine same age kids n so on. anyway i also have been with my partner 6yrs and also go through lack of interest in sex. when it first happened it lasted a few months and i honestly 4t it must be the end of our relationship, felt really down n if somehow the connection had gone between us. anyway after lots of talkin with my partner there was still no difference then one day i literally just woke up and felt a rush of love for my man and everything was back on track. strange i know. its happened about 3 times since we'e been together and everytime i've felt down n almost bored of our relationship. but everytime ive struggled through it and come out happy again. i think you should try your best to get throught this god knows why it happens but. tell you partner exactly how you feel and ask him to hang in there with you. relationships r not always plain sailing and it takes both of you. good luck hun xxx

Go to your doctor

First of all you need to look at your over-all sexual behaviour. Is it your lust for your boyfriend - or for sex in general - that is gone?

If it's your lust for your partner you should seriously consider therapy of some kind or trying something new. But you could also consider if you are with the right guy when your need for him can disappear just like that...

If your sex drive is gone totally you should go see your doctor. People in balance with themselves and their bodies don't normally just "switch off" like that. Find out if there's something physical going on with you that keeps you from getting turned on.


If not I would again advice you to see a therapist. I've heard of people who spend years living like you describe the past 6 months and within 3 months of seeing a therapist who specialized in sexual health got back all of their sex drive.

It's such a waste. Perhaps it will cost you a little money, but in the end the gain is much greater than any money you'd ever have.