Should i contact him?

I have feelings for a man I really shouldn't have feelings for, its hard to explain but he is untouchable really. We are both married with children, I work in the same building as him occasionally aswell.

I have his email address and I not sure if to email him and tell him how I feel but its abit messy really. He is a pillar in the community and someone I see on a professional basis aswell.

I am just very confused and not sure if I can carry on bottling up my feelings like this

Hmm

Hey Emmy,

1/ how often do you 2guys talk ? (Is that any "good" reason that you may have or think you have feelings towards him ?)

2/ There is nothing about "touchable" or not, being married in our times means nothing and surely not more untouchable than not "married couples"...(not gonna try to be evil's advocate here though...just a fact) it just makes all the thing quite more complex...

3/ As it was said, any reason to think your feelings are reciprocal ?

THE POINT here first, is, how things going with your guy ? (just to get an idea of what makes you attracted to another guy and seems like you're not considering your husband into consideration, right ? is your mariage still worthing then ?)

Hello

Thank you for replying.

We don't talk that often now, I work with him occasionally but in the past we have talked alot and he knows alot about my marriage and some of the problems I have had.

We are both married with children, I am sure he is happily married. I am also happy with children but I can't help my feelings towards this man. I have felt like this for 3 years, I can't get him out of my head some days.

I do love my husband but that spark has gone from our marriage especially since I have had these feelings for this other man. I haven't cheated and never would hurt my husband. I haven't contacted this other man and I am going to keep it this way.

I don't think

it should be a good idea...

I don't

I don't thimk it's a really good idea trying to start this kinda relationship.

How'd you feel if your husband did smthing like that?

Not sure it's a good idea

Hello - i'm all for 'taking the bull by the horns' and really believe you have to go down every avenue to make your own happiness however you haven't said if this man has given you any inclination that he thinks of you as anything other than an aquaintance never mind anything more.

Has he ever done done/said anything to make you think your feelings may be reciprocated? If not then an email that is out of the blue may be unwelcome and potentially embarrasing for you both.

Not sure..

i'm not sure about this one, what if he doesnt feel the same and tells his wife, you could be jepodising your marriage for nothing. you really need to think this through, i'm all for living in the moment and all that but this is reality and your the one thats going to have to live with the consiquences if it all goes ... up. x

I agree with you.

That is why I won't be telling him. I do not want to make a fool of myself here.

Hi

I am married my self and really would rather not advocate extra martrial affairs but you know what...if something or someone brings you happiness crasp it with both hands ..life is too short and not wanting to sound corney "we only live once" !!

We are still female..even married..we do not lose our desire to be made to feel special. from what I here you maybe did feel that with this other chap and possibly may get it...go for it and give the rest of us "trapped women" something to apsire too!!

Hi

Thank you Jane.

I am scared of rejection and the implications if I were to contact him.