My fiance is so un-romantic!

I got engaged to my boyfriend on the 29th of Feb this year. I proposed to him with it being the only day a gal can propose 2 a guy!

I bought him a ring, booked a hotel room and payed for the meal I took him to. I went to Thorntons chocolates and got 'Philip will you marry me?' written on it and I gave it to him during the starters as I was 2 nervous 2 wait till afterwards.

He said yes and we had an excellent night. We even went to get me a ring after our meal.

We will have been together for 3 years in July and to cut to the chase, he is un-romantic.

He doesn't take me out for meals, weekends away, to the cinema, a romantic stroll in the countryside. Nothing!

I have always been the romantic one and suggest meals and stuff but he doesn't seem 2 be bothered.

We both work and we are currently living with his parents. He said we will look for our own place at the end of this year but whenever I try to talk to him about it he just doesn't want to speak about it, even the wedding. We aren't going to get married for a good few years yet but he won't even talk about it.

It's driving me mad because we love each other so much and I know he loves me to death but he doesn't seem 2 want 2 talk2me about things and never does anything romantic.

How can I get him to become a romantic?

Please help! It's killing me!


Luv
Rhiannon
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Hi rhiannon

I know how you feel.
Me and my partner have a kid together he also has one from a previous relation ship.
We never get time to our selves as it is so hard for us to find baby sitters But when we do its always what he wants i dont drink but just so we can spend the time together i will go to pubs with him.

Valentines day i didnt get anything as to him he doesnt beleive in it but when he realised i was upset he asked if there was anything i wanted obviously i said dont bother you dont beleive in it. Hes never bought me flowers or cooked a romantic meal or anything. In the 4 years we have been together he has bought me one ring out of all the special occasions we ended up moving house and instead of moving in with me he moved into his mums!! It seems to me like he is like my partner he doesnt want to settle down yet he wasnts to live his life before building a family or relationship.

Please feel free to email me or send me a message any time

jojo
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Hi

i m sure you already told him how you feel but maybe you should tell him again and again and again!!i dont think you ask for a total changement but more attention.
my bf is romantic (i know i m lucky!)and he surprises me all time!i never met someone like him before and i feel so great!!i wish you the same hapiness as me!!so talk to your future husband!!be romantic is not old fashion, men in 2008 are romantic.

good luck
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Hey hunny

Well i know you feel.

My partner of 1 and a half years is only romantic when he wants to be and that isnt alot. And his version of being romantic is totally different to my version. We go out for meals and he will sometimes suggest it but my arguement with him is that i have to ask him to do things for me, ie cook me a nice meal, run me a bath, give me a massage. Baring in mind im nearly 5 months pregnant and i still do all the house work, cooking, washing. I dont mind doing it but it would be soooo nice if he turned round and offered to make me a meal once in a while so i can put my feet up.

I think the only problem i have got is that he has been like it since day 1 so really i should have done something about it before instead of leaving it till last minute.

I think in your case hunny you need to sit him down and tell him how you feel, if it turns into an arguement then so be it but if its the only way of getting your point accross then what can you do. Me and my bf do argue about this and it really gets to me but he never seems to change so i just put up with it. You should have to just put up with anything so try and talk to him. He will go away and think about it even if he doesnt talk to you straight away.

Good luck hun xxx