Confused and hurt by his behavior
I dated this guy for about 2 months. He invited me to go on a short, 2-day vacation with me. There, he stunned me by saying that he is not sure about me and if I am the right person for him. When I asked why, he said that 1st: not much is going on in my life (comparing to him, he is into outdoors activities, he sings in a choir etc.), and 2nd: I am a high-maintenance person. The explanation he provided was that "I like to be helped a lot". Now, we are both educated professionals with very demanding jobs, and I have always been an independent woman. My activities are more city-life oriented, such as museums, reading, films, concerts, than outdoors. We always had a lot to talk about, exchange ideas and experiences, and I never before suspected he would have this "boring person" opinion about me. As for the "high-maintenenance" stuff, I asked him the day before our conversation to help me out with buckling a ski boot (as I am a ski novice), and I received a very reluctant help. That was the beginning of my suspicions that something was wrong. Previously, he would never had a habit of holding hands with me or holding my coat as we would leave a restaurant and such. Not that I expect a man to be fully into this chivalrous behavior, but some attention, I think, is normal, and does not undermine a woman's independence.
We broke up soon afterwards, ironically, on his initiative. My first reaction was to end this all myself, but he convinced me that we might have had a misunderstanding, and that he does have a lot of respect for me and such, and that he wanted to continue dating me. I sort of agreed, only to have him break up with me 2 weeks later.
The whole experience left me hurt and confused. I'd like to hear your opinion about this.
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