Am i being used? urgent help needed!!!

I currently seeing someone but not officially, we meet up maybe once a week to either have sex or give him a bj and the meetings dont usually last longer than an hour as there very late at night because he works odd hours.

Anyway we text every nite and have spoke briefly about getting 2gether as a couple properly but I've got a bad history of jumping head first into relationships but I know how I feel properly and he had a bad break up over a year ago and he's worried he'll get hurt so we both said we'd see how we feel in the future.

Anymore the downside is he knows I want to be with him but he's still not sure.

But now I've had text from my ex who knows his older brother saying he's told his brother he's just using me for sex. Now I feel stupid!(Or is this my ex stirring things coz I broke up with him and he still wants to get back together, also he sent the text the nite he found out I'd started seeing someone, I hadn't told him)

Could this be true? Do I confront him (the new guy)? Or do I just ignore my ex and take a chance and mayb realise it was a lie or that I'm just using him too??

Need help, what would you do?

Don't do it, lass!

My first reaction is: yes, he's using you. He may not be, and it could be your ex being a jealous fool, but I would never risk it. If you loved him, there would be very little doubt as to whether you wanted to start the relationship with him ... there would be no: we'll see how we feel in the future.

You deserve better

honey theres pleanty more fish in the sea was the saying ,so why waste your time to plz him with a quick 1hr here and 1hr there,thats not a relationship, and i know you never said it was but i bet you wish it was ,of course his using you and its only for his convienience not yours so dont give him the satisfaction of getting what he wants,which is just a quickie,wait for the right guy and don;t let no one use you ''you deserve better and yes unfortunately some guys do tell there mates there bussiness so its most likely that he may of done to the friend ,,who knows but remember if theres nothing going on then there'll be nothing to chat about?

Yes

Yes of course you are being used.He probably has a long term relationship and you are a bit on the side. If you want a serious relationship dump him. If you just enjoy the sex use him in the same way as long as you know it is not Love, but lust,fun,excitment or whatever.Warmest wishes, Brian x

Follow your instinct

It sounds like your instinct's telling you that you're being used. Trust in your instinct...

Oh dear

Oh my god I would run away from them both!!!

Just try

just try, one day when you are alredy together with him, to say you're not in the mood for sex and watch his reaction. If he stays for a while and doesn't seem to care about sex, OK. But if he suddenly says he's just remembered an appointment or something... your fears will be confirmed.