Lying

Hey,

just wanted to get some other people's views on something, is lying in a relationship ever acceptable? I've caught my husband out in a lie today, nothing too major, some money he owes a friend he didn't tell me about but it's not the first time and it's worrying me a little. None of the previous lies have been anything major either but I'm always totally honest about everything and he knows I expect the same in return so why does he do it? I should say I'm pregnant and probably a bit hormonal but it just makes me wonder whether I can really trust him as much as I always have. I haven't told him I know about the money and not sure whether it's important enough to cause a row about but it's bugging me that he didn't tell me so know I probably will! I always get a gut instinct when he's not telling me everything so know I probably don't have too much to worry about, I'd know if he was lying about anything big but just wondered whether other people thought this is a big deal or is it normal not to tell each other everything? Thanks for reading,

Clare

Hi clare,

I agree with Max (see below), just chill out and talk with him and I'm sure you will get to the bottom of it.

Kia xx

Clare,

There's a difference between lying and not telling (or lying by omission I suppose..).
In this instance, your husband didn't lie to you he just didn't tell you about this money he owed.
What could "push" him to not tell you? Your reaction perhaps? Didn't want to worry you for something that wasn't a problem? Thought that you were going to think less of him?
Rather than have him trying to convince you that he wouldn't lie to you anymore, try to talk with him for both of you to understand why he did it.

Max.