Hi

I have been with my partner since I was 15, i am now 30. We have 3 girls 14,9 and 6, we also have a mortgage.
Our relationship has been bad for a good few years and enough is enough I need to get on with my life. (We have tried to make relationship work etc but its not getting anywhere) We are both still living in the house together and nothing is changing. I need to move out but not sure how to go about it. Would the council house me? ( The house needs to be sold etc but we cant live like this untill then,i feel as though I am going to go crazy, i am constantly crying etc) I work full time at the moment but woudlnt be able to carry on after I leave although I do intend to work part time or as many hours as I can around the children.Would I be entitelled to any beneifts? I hnestly think that I/my kids and my partner would be so much more happier. Please if anyone can offer any advice I would be so pleased im getting to the point where I just want to walk out, but dont have anywhere to go.

Lin

Hi Lin

First of all ((((((hugs)))))) can emphathise what you`re going through - its been 8 years since I was where you are, but hey, I remember it well!

All finance side really varies on your individual circumstances etc.. I'm not really clued up on that, but go and see the Citizens Advice Bureau or even your local Womans Advice Centre, both of those will go through everything with you and advise you on what help is out there..

If things have got to the end and no going back etc then yes everyone involved will be happier, kids will be happier if you are happier and if there is a lot of tension in the house etc they will be more relaxed..

Could it be possible for you to stay in the house and he move out?

Hang on in there, you`ll get through this xx

I was where you are a year ago. I thought things would never change. The first bit of advice is things will only change when you do! Dry your eyes take yourself off to a doctor and get yourself assessed for depression. You will be offered antidepressants and counselling- take it. When your mood is better you can be more objective about your situation.When my depression was being treated I was able to talk to my husband- now my ex and we agreed that in the interests of the kids he should leave not me. We did try to sell the house but times are bad and nobodys buying so I ended up taking on a second job and taking in a lodger much to my kids disgust because they have to share rooms. Im constantly skint always tired but overall much happier and so are my kids. Their dad sees them everyday in fect he babysits so I can go to the gym everyday- something I would never have done before