What do you think about an "affection plan" relationship ?

Well that's it.

A relation between friendship and love and less than a "sex plan", well kind of "friends with benefits" relation but sex excluded. follow me ? lol

Basically it's more about "affective loneliness" as a matter of fact.

What would you girls think if a guy "came" to you, saying : "well, let's hang out sometimes, go to theater, opera, cine, exhibitions, have a walk etc..." with the following "contract rules" :

- hold hands ok
- "hugs" ok
- no kiss
- no sex
- no emotional attachment
- don't go to eachother's home. (decrease the risk to see the relationship get out of control)
- no hotel either of course (for the same reason given above)
- no bother with any exclusivity

If emotions come out or if one of the two could start a relationship with another person or something then the "contract" is over.

Would you think it as weird ? possible ? not possible ? idealist ? utopist ? what risks ? Do you think it could work out ? or not ? if it could work, could it be on a long term basis or not ?

well any opinion is warmly welcomed

xoxoxox
thanks girls

Could work

In a way, I have this kind of relationship with a male friend - though he is married which may be why it works?

We've been for a few nights out with each other (including an overnight function in an hotel - seperate rooms of course!!), we meet at least once a week for coffee, on our last night out we held hands ( he'd got a bit upset about something so comforting and we held hands - but only whilst he was upset) and always gives a hug when we leave...

The only emotional attachment is that of close friendship, support each other, are there for each other without the complex of relationship.

It works for us - although I must admit sometimes I do wonder what it would be like to have more with him, as I think when you are close to seomeone, share time together and contact of hugs etc it does confuse the boundaries and make you wonder what it would be like to have more

I think if he was not married then I would want more

SO although it is possible, it can be difficult to not confuse the boundaries. I do not think it is weird, as I think there should be more hugs in the world! Guess sort of idealist in sense that one party is bound to feel like they want more at some time,

Long term basis, why not! i've only known this guy for a year, but the longer the two know each other, the more relaxed and close as friends and to get past any confusion blips.

So thats my opinion for you to warmly welcome

So when you taking me to the theatre lol!

Thanks

Hey Jessie,

thanks for your answer

"In a way, I have this kind of relationship with a male friend - though he is married which may be why it works?"
>> well might be indeed...what about lovely single guys and girls then ?


"The only emotional attachment is that of close friendship, support each other, are there for each other without the complex of relationship."
>> here we get a point, what one call a "friendship"...we all just get lost on trying to defining what a relation is and which "folder" to put it...

- friendship,
- love
- loving friendship
- friends with benefits
- "affection friends" (i'm proud of this one, i made it lol...)

and so many persons just wonder so many questions such as : "well what kind of relationship am I having with this folk ?" see what I mean ?
as for me, i'm quite "straight" in the manner that I do know where are my "bundaries" so that it takes me (personally) to a problem..."taking hands or hold" just doesn't belong to friendship at all (to me at least). Therefore what you call a "friendship" without the complex of the relations, well, I just can't call it that way.

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It works for us - although I must admit sometimes I do wonder what it would be like to have more with him, as I think when you are close to seomeone, share time together and contact of hugs etc it does confuse the boundaries and make you wonder what it would be like to have more"
>> I completely can imagine so...that's an issue.

"So when you taking me to the theatre lol!"
>> when you cross over the Channel and/or take a 7 hours Eurostar and train trip from London lol....
whatever aren't you afraid ? I'm a kind of specie mixed of Benny Hill and Mr. Bean lol...scary isn ... ? lol...

"what about lovely single guys and girls then "

I personally think that if both are single, then as soon as physical contact starts in the form of hugs or hand holding starts then at least one of the two people are going to start feeling attached.. they might not admit it to the other but will still feel some form of attachment.

Though guess it all depends on the whole relationship as a whole..

"here we get a point, what one call a "friendship"...we all just get lost on trying to defining what a relation is and which "folder" to put it"

I guess the definition of 'friendship' is so wide, with so many variables, different type of friends, different genders, different ages, amount of time been friends, experiences shared etc.... guess there are so many folders that it is difficult to know which folder fits all...


"whatever aren't you afraid ? I'm a kind of specie mixed of Benny Hill and Mr. Bean lol...scary isn ... ? lol..."

Lol.. Benny Bean............ now that would be a scary thought! but not as scary as the spider in the bath lol