How can you tell if someone likes you?

Hi there, just wanted to get some feedback really. How can you tell if someone likes you. There is a guy in work who i have known for about a year and a half and we have always been kind of flirtacious but nothing really ever came of it. He was with a girl for a few years but split up a number of months ago. I was in a long term relationship but have also moved on. I do have a 4 year old child with my ex. I have noticed that me and this guy talk a lot about personal stuff, relationships etc and he is always willing to listen and also discusses his own personal things with me. I have tried to see if he flirts with other ladies that work with us and he is very polite with them but seems to be a bit different with me. He will always wink at me when leaving or blow a kiss but i think that he is just quite a loving kind of guy anyway so didnt think much of it. He will always want a hug when he is going to be away from work for a while. I always notice him looking at me (even when i am talking to someone else) and he doesnt even make it discreet. He always seems to make excuses to come and talk to me by asking something little but then we will end up talking for ages about something totally different and he never looks in a rush to get away.

He does know about my situation and has stated in conversation that a single woman with a child wold not bother him (he is single with no children).

Please tell me am i going mad or is it the little person in my head saying 'no way he couldnt possibly like me'.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Lyn XX

Hey

Lol, I had the same problem with a guy, he didn't talk to me at all... and his friends kept pointing me out in town lol... I actually thought he hated me... turns out that he hasn't got the guts to talk to me and really really likes me.

So, the fact that he's giving you all the playful flirting like blowing kisses, winking and hugging... does make it seem like he likes you to me. You should see what happens when you flirt back by catching his kiss and putting it in your pocket or something, rather than not really taking much notice.

P.s. Don't let the person in your head put you down, we all have one, but occasionally you've just got to go ahead and not take notice. It's always nice to get one over on that voice x x x Let me know how it goes. x x x

Hi there

by the sounds of it-i think he does like you.+i think if you don't do something about it you will always be thinking 'what if',go on be brave and ask if him if he'd like to meet up for a drink sometime. X

Hi = d

Ya, most definitely. If you leave it to lie, the guy could assume you don't like him and after a while, it could leave a small gap between your bonds. Best thing, I think, is to reply to his flirtatious ways and see where it gets you after a few months. If you feel closer to him within time, then perhaps do as lorraine266 said and ask him out somewhere. There's no harm in trying and maybe that try would improve your chances with him by far. Don't act hard to get and don't ignore his gestures, because he's making himself easy to get, so use that to your advantage. Good luck with it = D

Thanks

Hi guys

Thanks for your advice and i will take note of them. I think its because i work with him and im scared that if he doesnt feel the same way then it will make our working life difficult. I really do feel that there is something there though otherwise i think it is totally mean what he is doing lol .

There is lots of other things that he does that makes me think and i could go on forever so its not like i have just got the wrong end of the stick surely.

I do flirt back with him a lot and i will touch him now and again and he has never pulled away. I also find that when i need a hand or advice it is always him that is first there!! Its really kind of sweet to watch, aah! I just dont want to get it mixed up with him just being a really sweet guy in general though. Ill keep you all posted hee hee!!

LynXXXX

Oh yes !!!!!!!!

This guy definately has the hots for you !!!
I was in a similar situation last christmas we even got as far as having a kiss but unfortunately he was married but he made the moves first.
We are just friends now and I can't take it further because of his situation and I respect that, he does know how I feel I just hope it doesn't spoil our frendship as for a while he was all I thought about.
You on the other hand are very lucky because he is single and available and from what you say he definately fancies you all the signs are there.
Does he look at you that little bit longer then look away and look straight back ? that is one of the sure 100% ways of knowing if he really likes you.
Please take a look at this link from a very good website it will have all the answers to your questions, you go girl, ask him out if he is too shy to do it. Good Luck,

Elaine x

http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-tell-if-he--is-attra cted-to-me

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Hi Elaine

Many thanks for your advice, i have looked at that site and it does make sense but im still a bit scared lol. I may just wait a little longer as i can tell we seem to be getting a little closer. Im not quite sure about the eyes though, he seems to look straight into my eyes and then scans my hair and my whole face, ha ha i cant believe that i am looking this closely, its mad!!

Anyway i shall keep you posted on what happens but i always find it sooo hard to ask someone out if i really really like them, i just cant seem to do it, i seem to feel more comfortable asking someone out for a drink if im attracted to them but not as much, if you know what i mean??

Thanks so much for your advice.

LynXXX

Waiting is ok ....

Lyn,

Waiting is okay just see how it goes he may end up asking you out in the end.
Are there any social events at work coming up ? that may be a good time to get together, if not why don't you suggest one.
Please let me know how it goes.

Elaine x