Hopeless

hi, hoping someone can offer me some advice as my friends r a bit clueless with this one! i have been with my husband for 4 years we have 2 beautiful children together. i love him and hes a fantastic father (bit lazy n useless at times but he is a man after all!)he's so supportive i am at uni n he does loads to help me out with it all.
so when i say what im about to say i feel bad because i know it could be so much worse, i have been in 2 very bad relationships and know i have got it easy now. BUT!!! i just don't find him attractive at all i never ever fell like having sex with him i feel so bad about often i do it to please him but i think i feel even worse for doing that! we've only been married 5 minutes i feel like an old moaning miserable woman!

what do i do???? xx

Bless you

when i first met my husband i did't fancy him,i grew to know him as a friend and found him attractive,as time has passed i know all of him and i love and fancy the person that he is on the inside which now shines out of him=this may or may not be the same for you. I have also been in 2very difficult relationships in the past and so understand about the sex issue(my ex)and it definately made me feel worse- and in the end i felt kinda like i lost a piece of myself(+respect for myself)each time! try not to feel bad about how you feel,just try to be honest with yourself and think of what is best for you and your daughters+if you are unhappy in the end it will make hubby unhappy too! X