Need to stay strong

Hi Im new to this. Hope to find a friend to chat to. At the moment Im trying to make a new life for me and my son. I left his violent father nearly 8 months ago, and although its hard im still trying. It's difficult and hard to talk about but Im getting there. Not quite sure what im looking for on here, think I need some words of advice maybe and someone to tell me Im doing the right thing even tho I know I am. Feel very confused at the moment, as you can probably tell!

Hey

my mum is with a violent partner who is not my dad. He made me and my sister leave the house n live with our dad and friends at 14 and 15. men normally turn on the children too , if theyre violent. U DID THE RIGHT THING AND IM PROUD OF U!
Ive had broken bones off him alone with my family.
my relationship with my mum is broken because of her relationship. I nw have my own child and i will never let a voilent man near him.
Well done! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Ur a brilliant mother

Yes,you are doing the right thing!!!

yes,you are doing the right thing for you and your son-well done!!! i stayed in a violent relationship for 7years!!-leaving him was probably the most difficult thing i've ever done+the best thing i ever done.geting to know yourself again is gonna be exciting,scarey and surprising(maybe upsetting).i'm here if you ever need to chat to someone whose 'been there' X

You are not alone!!

Just a little note to say that you are not alone. Although my partner wasnt violent, he was very neglectful and didnt do anything to help me through the first hard and tiring years of parenthood. i have had to put up with drug taking and gambling and in the past he cheated on me. I just keep clinging onto them thoughts when he keeps coming back crying and saying that he will change for good (bearing in mind that i fell for this the first time and he didnt change).

All i can say is that if you made that choice not to live like that anymore for yourself and your son then you have made the right decision, definately. I couldnt imagine being a child and having to live with a violent father and feel that i have been quite lucky to have had a loving father in my life and wouldnt have known how my life would be now if that had been different.

I wouldnt like to tall anyone what to do with their life as everybody has the right to make their own decision but i think you have made a very brave decision and almost definately the right one. You just keep strong for your son and im sure that, in time, you will have the chance to meet a loving guy who will look after you and your son.

Keep s posted on how you are getting on and think better of yourself as you deserve to be treated like a queen.

Love LooX

Yes

Yes- you have most definitely done the right thing. I have never been in a violent relationship but a good friend with two small children has- and still is. He hasn't been violent towards her since she had her children but she lives in constant fear that one day he will turn on her, or worse, on their children again. When he has his violent outbursts he throws things, brakes things, loses control, and she says it's terrifying for both her and the children. When she told me all of this I felt extremely sorry for her. She has to take her own decision to leave him. All I have said is that I'm sure she would manage and that I would do anything withing my power to help her if she decides to leave him, now it's up to her. I really hope one day she is as brave as you, because her husband is refusing to seek help for his problems, and this situation has been going on for years now.

So yes, not only have you done the right things, but you are a very brave and strong woman. I can imagine it's the hardest thing you have ever done, but I'm sure with time things will get easier. I wish you a lot of strength and courage and good luck. You're a strong woman.

Take care H