Help please!!

Hello Everyone,

I often find myself getting caught up in my emotions and having sex in the early stages of a relationship. This makes me feel like the relationship is based more on sexual tension than actual love and commitment. This makes me regret having sex at all. Almost like a guilty feeling. It sabotages the relationship.

I think the reason this happens to me frequently is beacuse of my intensely high sex drive. When Im in a relationship I usually have sex every single day. When Im not in a relationship I crave sexual encounters. So, the second a new relationship starts, Im already itching to get him in bed and feel connected to him. This is simply because i love sex and feeling pyhsically close to a man. I definately wouldn't say Im a sex addict (in case thats how this is sounding) its more like- Im looking for emotional connections in the wrong places.

So, all of this being said, I would like some advice on how to REFRAIN from sex in the early stages of a relationship. I have recently begun seeing a man, and I would like to connect on a deeper, cognitive level before we have sex. I think this will make the relationship stronger and make me feel more complete and confident in my choices.

Any tips, tricks and advice would be greatly apriciated!!!
Thanks!
Allie

Hello

If your sex drive is what causes you to have sex so early in a relationship, then maybe you should turn to masturbation for relief until your relationship is ready for the next step.

Hi

this happen in early stages, but if you keep sex drive like a hunger it will continue and may lead to sex addiction. sexuality is most natural, which nature has given for it's continuation, i.e. for reproduction. for that attraction between male and female and pleasure in it. if you go beyound it then love happen. sex without love is mecanical and routine, but sex with love is a pleasure. so give impornatance to love, care and share, and don't be impaitent, then you will find real pleasure. mind well sexuality is in mind and mind is connected to organs. change you mind.
have a good luck,
sadabahar