Struggling with the right and wrong thing to do with my married man

have fallen head over heals in love with a married man. Trust me I know what im doing is more than wrong, I was in a relationship for 11 years and my partner cheated on me a couple of times until I finished it. Couldn't understand these horrid women that didn't even consider me!! Well shoe is on the other foot now! I do hate myself knowing that I could destroy someone else's life but I really do love this guy I click with him in everyway possible. I met him 6 or so years ago he was single I wasn't, we were just mates, I knew he liked me but I would never have cheated on my partner. He never pursed me I just knew I liked him. 2 years ago I split with my other half. Then an email a year later from married man (not married at the time), he was testing the water me dum as normal did not click. I then got in contact with him this year we met up with loads of friends and that was it, I knew he was getting married but thought just get him out of your system! (big mistake) I can never get him out of my system to me he is my soul mate. The worst thing is his now wife (Who I dont know) is a really nice person and he has no reason to leave her really but I cant be without him and he cant be without me. I KNOW CAKE AND EAT IT! He does have an issue where she wants kids and he dont its the only thing I can see that will devide them. I know I should walk away but easier said than done!! Even though I feel im on a rollercoaster up and down, when im with him or talk to him I dont care. Ive been with a bad man and even though what he (WE) is doing is wrong he is not a bad man. Life really is not fair. I know what to do but not even my best friend knows im seeing this man and that is hard as I have noone to talk it over with, I never in a million years thought I would be in this situation.

Keep well away !!!

JUST THINK FOR A MOMENT HOW YOU FELT?

Imagine the pain his wife & "all their family" will feel because of this awful situation geting out of hand. You say you hate yourself for destroying someones life. It isnt one person. Its so many. It would affect the parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters, friends......I

........t's not worth the bit of fun! Why do people have to mess around with married men or women? There are enough single people out there, find one of them.

Sorry if you think Im being harsh, but I have seen 1st hand what "affairs, lies & deception does" If their marraige will work great, if it dont because of the children issue, then you have the chance. If its ment to be.

I hope you come to your sences & wake up to what your doing.

Hi sparky

I am sorry but the only thing I can tell you is that you have to leave him. I know it is very difficult but you have to try because if you have suffered when your former boyfriend cheated on you, his wife will suffer a lot when she will discover her husband's betrayal. Just as well they don't have children!. If you want you can count on me, send me a message to speak about your big problem.
Best regards