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Have i messed up?

I was seeing a guy who I love for 6 months but he split with me tonight because he felt that I couldn't be honest with him.
The first few months were great then he started asking about my past relationships which I don't like talking about as I am not proud of a lot of what I have done, but alot of it was down to feeling a bit lonely as I had moved from home when I was 17 to a big city and didn't have many people I could talk to.
He went into depth about various sexual history of mine, asking questions and that made me feel uncomfortable, also I find it hard to talk about things, it takes me a while to get out what I want to say, and I hate upset.
He was the best thing that happened to me and I was scared that the truth would make him not want to be with me, so when he asked me about certain things, I wasn't 100% honest as I was scared at what he would think.
I felt he asked in too much detail about personal things and I freaked, but at the same time I realise I should have just been honest, but now I have lost him.
I have done things relationship wise previously that I deeply regret but I trully love him and didn't mean to hurt him, I was just scared that he would not like me for my past.
He says that he is too fucked up as I have lied to him and he thinks that because I have previously cheated that I would do that to him, but I cheated previously because I was feeling used and not loved, but I felt loved by him.

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Past

hi, I dont think you have anything to feel bad about.
the thing about the past is thats what it is....the past!
hes not fucked up cos youve lied to him, hes fucked up cos he cant handle your past. If he wasnt mature enough to hear the truth then he shouldnt have asked for it! dont ever feel ashamed of your past, its all lifes experiences that make you the person you are today..
I wouldnt waste my time crying over him...there are plenty more fish in the sea..who will accept you for you.

chin up.

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My answer to your question is no, you haven't messed up. Your boyfriend has messed up because he shouldn't have asked you about your past. It only refers to you. With him you had turned over a new leaf. He was too indiscreet. I am sorry about my english but it isn't my mother tongue. I hope you understand me
Best regards



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